tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-16027833749091328552023-11-16T03:07:22.001-08:00THE MULTI DIMENSIONAL PARADIGMS OF SELF-DEFENSEThe Multi Dimensional Paradigms of Self-Defense is a model that describes a person’s overall view of the universe self-defense. Everyone’s viewpoint is different, but viewpoints can still be categorized in groups. The MDP model helps explain the basic differences in
viewpoints. It provides people a framework to expand and evolve their self-defense
paradigm into one with a more comprehensive viewpoint.NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-59356651419079580612014-08-25T08:17:00.002-07:002014-08-25T08:17:50.477-07:00<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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Boundary Setting is fundamental for human success both on an individual and societal level. Societies that effectively use Boundary Setting create progress and advance civilization (think of Rome). They are able to build upon ideas and inventions. Societies with ineffective Boundary Setting descend into chaos and mayhem (think of barbarians). Individuals that utilize effective Boundary Setting in their private and public relationships live secure and productive lives. Those that are unable to effectively set boundaries endure lives of insecurity and constant threat of victimization.<br />
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Boundary Setting is central to human development and unfortunately most people are unaware of how it functions. In fact, when asked about Boundary Setting the most common response is that it “has something to do with personal space”, but that is about as deep as it gets.<br />
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Boundary Setting is based on the three inter-related concepts of Respect, Communication, and Enforcement. Boundary Setting begins with the establishment of rules. Rules are basically laws and regulations that govern and outline acceptable human behavior. Boundaries are Rules. These Rules can pertain to society as a whole. They can also pertain to the individual in the form of his or her view of acceptable personal behavior. In fact, every entity and organization in society has its own set of Rules that limit and control behaviors. Without these Rules, there is no order. There is confusion. There are misunderstandings and more. Progress is stymied.<br />
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It is not enough for the rules to be created. The rules must be communicated to everyone in society. In terms of the individual, the rules must be clear to those who interact with him or her. Clear communication of the rules is an essential part of effective Boundary Setting. The rules must be clearly communicated in order to avoid violations that are the result of a misunderstanding of the rules. <br />
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When the rules are understood, willful violations are the result of a lack of respect for the rules. Following the rules is a sign of Respect for the rules. Violations signify disrespect for the rules. Civilized societies are based on the majority of people having respect for the rules. Respect for the rules is also defined as the Public Trust, when the members of society have faith and trust in the societal institutions and government. When a personal boundary of an individual is violated, if that boundary was clearly communicated, the violation is a sign of lack of respect for the person and his or her boundaries.<br />
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A willful violation of the rules must be meet with appropriate Enforcement of the rules. Enforcement is designed to create Respect for the rules. Enforcement must be Just-Right in order to create Respect. When the rules are Under-Enforced, the result is contempt for the rules. Under-Enforcement is an action that is not enough (too little) to create Respect for the rules. Societies that create laws but don’t enforce them create contempt. Individuals that don’t enforce violations of their personal boundaries create contempt for themselves. Contempt is a destroyer of Respect.<br />
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When violations of the rules are met with Over-Enforcement, a Backlash against the rules is created. Over-Enforcement is a response that is too harsh (or perceived to be) in relation to the violation. When governments over-enforce the rules, they risk inciting a rebellion. When individuals over-enforce their boundaries they risk escalating the situation. <br />
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Clear Communication helps reduce the risk of Over-Enforcement. If someone violates the rules due to a misunderstanding of the rules, it is likely that he or she will view most enforcement responses as too harsh. Thus creating a potential for a Backlash. This is commonly seen in terms of violations of personal boundaries (space) that were not perceived to be a violation by the violator. But were viewed as an intentional violation by violated. The result maybe an upward spiral of perceived over-enforcements and backlashes that escalates a minor intrusion into a major confrontation.<br />
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On the other hand, an intentional violator may use the pretext of misunderstanding as a strategy to violate societal and personal boundaries. Their response to any type of enforcement is too claim a lack of understanding as opposed to a willful lack of respect for the rules. This ploy is highly successful against individuals that don’t clearly communicate their boundaries.<br />
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It is only when the enforcement response is Just-Right or perceived to be appropriate for the violation that Respect will be created. This is the rational about creating “respect for the rule of law” through the use of the court system. A punishment, fine, or a consequence is a form of enforcement. <br />
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Boundary Setting is a continual process. It can be done before, during, or after a violation. Prior to a violation, Boundary Setting is a form of prevention. During a violation, Boundary Setting is a type of intervention. The Use of Force as a means to limit and control unwanted behavior is Boundary Setting. Responding to a violation after is has occurred is also Boundary Setting. In this case, the Boundary Setting is typically some sort of punishment for the violation.<br />
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Boundary Setting relies on the inter-action of Respect, Communication, and Enforcement to create secure boundaries by limiting and controlling behavior. Boundaries are the rules of behavior. Boundary Setting is both communicating and enforcing those rules. Secure boundaries enable societies and individuals to systemically create environments of respect and to reduce violations. Respectful environments are fundamental for increasing growth, creativity, trust, and human progress.
NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-30870381031045847362014-06-06T15:32:00.002-07:002014-06-06T15:37:07.686-07:00Three Types of Learning – Which One Do You Use?<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are three distinct categories of learning: <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Vertical Learning, Horizontal Learning, </i>and<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"> Connective Learning.<o:p></o:p></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Vertical Learning is the process of learning in a step by
step linear fashion. You begin with the basics and build on the basics with
successively more complicated concepts, skills, tasks, etc. Learning math is an
example of this process. Additional and subtraction leads to algebra with leads
to calculus, and so on. Vertical Learning is typical in the martial arts where
basic skills are taught to beginning students and more advanced skills are
taught to students that have mastered the basics. Colored belts that designate
rank is typically a mark of Vertical Learning.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Horizontal Learning is the process of learning additional
concepts, skills, tasks, etc. that are independent of prior learning. Using
math again, learning geometry is separate from learning statistics. One area
does not necessarily build upon the other. In the martial arts, Horizontal Learning
is seen by successive learning of different unrelated styles of martial arts.
The person who has a belts in Karate, BJJ, Aikido, and Tai Chi is using
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The third method is Connective Learning. Connective Learning
is the process of integrating and networking concepts, skills, tasks, etc.
together to achieve understanding. Connective Learning is about building the understanding
of the relationships between different concepts, skills, and tasks. The math
example is seeing the relation of the common principles between geometry,
statistics, and calculus. The martial artist that is able to relate the
outwardly differing elements of various styles together to create unifying
principles is using Connective Learning process.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Intelligence is defined as the ability to acquire and apply
knowledge and skills. Acquiring and applying is a form processing. Therefore,
intelligence is the ability to process knowledge and skills. The brain is the
body’s central processor. It uses an estimated 100 billion brain cells that
each hold bits of information and communicate with each other to store
information, knowledge, and execute tasks. The more efficiently these cells
communicate (integrate/network) with each other the greater the processing
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Now imagine that Step 1, Step 2, Step 3, Step 4, Subject A,
Subject B, Subject C, Subject D are all “bits of information” stored in Cells.
Connective Learning is the process of interconnecting (integrating) these Cells
together as efficiency as possible. If each connection is represented by a
line, Vertical Learning uses three lines to connect four Steps. Horizontal
Learning uses three lines to connect four Subjects. But Connective Learning is
the process of developing the permutations (relationships, integrations,
connectivity) between these Cells. How many different permutations can come
from 8 different Cells? <a href="http://www.webmath.com/k8perm.html" target="_blank">The answer is 40,320!</a> Therefore, effective Connective
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The teaching of Connective Learning begins after the student
has acquired some basic “intelligence” from either Vertical Learning or
Horizontal Learning. At that point, the student needs to understand that he or
she is now developing connectivity as opposed to either a more complex skill or
an additional skill. Therefore, a key part of the Connective Learning process
is the basic understanding of these three types of learning.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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of Othering. It began with a socially outcast vengeful young man with pent-up
frustration who blames <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">others</i> for his
unhappiness. To many in the US, he was a “Nut Job”. To many people outside the
US, he was another “American Nut Job”. To some anti-gun activists, he was
another “Mass Murdering Gun Owner”. To some pro-gun people, he was just a “Bad
Guy with a Gun”. To some women, he was a Misogynist. To other women, he was another
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Depending upon which particular agenda you would like to promote,
the labeling of the killer as a ‘this’ or a ‘that’ is the beginning of a
logical sounding, but essentially emotional thinking Othering based argument.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The killer used Othering to a large degree. Othering was the
<a href="http://www.scribd.com/doc/225960813/Elliot-Rodger-Santa-Barbara-mass-shooting-suspect-My-Twisted-World-manifesto" target="_blank">justification</a> for his killing spree. They had Othered him, so now he was going
to Other them in return. And assuming the news stories are correct, Othering
was the tool that facillitated the killing of his three roommates. Apparently,
he hit them on the back of the head with a hammer and slit their throats.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Othering is a highly effective tool for getting the job
done. If your primary goal is to kill as efficiently as possible, there is no
need for engaging your target as a human being with confrontation, anger, and a
frontal attack. Othering offers you the ability to slaughter your dehumanized
target without the interference of conscience and ethical considerations.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">In terms of self-defense, it is important to realize that if
you have been Othered, then it’s time to throw the rules of social conflict out
the window. Most likely, your attacker isn’t going to provide you the warning
signs of anger and aggression. He or she may lure you, deceive you, and attack
you from behind with his or her weapon of choice. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Once you have been Othered, your practiced strategy of logically
or emotionally appealing to the other person’s humanity is no longer valid. To
him or her, you are no longer human. Therefore, you don’t qualify for the
status of negotiation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">You now are faced with engaging in your own form of Othering
– Temporary Othering for Self-Defense (TOSD). In its purest form, TOSD means
that you dispatch your attacker with the same cold blooded efficiency and
methods he would seek to use on you. You use deceit and overwhelming force to
disrupt your attacker, foil his plan, and disengage to safety. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The key concept is Temporary. Your Othering is limited to
the time necessary to get the job done. The time need for you to get away. Extended
Othering is likely to get you sent to jail when you go beyond what is
necessary. Othering provides tremendous power. It frees you from the bonds of
conscience and the constraints of socialization and ethical issues. It allows
you to perform actions that you would ordinarily never do, and therein lies its
power. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Temporary Othering for Self-Defense is rational. But
rationalized Othering is something else. The California killer rationalized and
justified his Othering. It enabled him to kill innocent young women he had
never met for simply being women. And in return, it enables the Othering and
labeling of the entire male gender as misogynists by those who seek to exploit
the dark power of Othering.<o:p></o:p></span>NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-84103892655173873522014-05-26T18:31:00.001-07:002014-05-27T09:02:49.272-07:00Othering - The Root of Human Evil<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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What is the root of all human evil? Many claim it is money. But I think it is something else. A contagious behavior so insidious that effects all human beings to various degrees regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, religion, presence of disability or lack thereof, social class, education level, political affiliation, and more. This behavior can be seen in the highest levels of education and the lowest levels of ignorance. It is exhibited by social justice advocates and the “Oppressors” alike. It occurs in society’s elite as well as the downtrodden. <br />
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This behavior is infectious. It spreads from one person to another like a virus. It causes a person’s thinking brain to become dormant while the person’s emotions take over. It breeds a vicious self-reinforcing cycle of hate, discontent, anger, paranoia, insecurity, revenge, indignation, righteousness, contempt, and loathing. Many times this behavior is blatantly obvious. Other times it is hidden in intellectual discussions and writings of educated advocates of worthwhile causes.<br />
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This behavior is responsible for incalculable human suffering. In its most powerful form, it has caused the deaths of millions and individual acts of unspeakable cruelty. In its milder form it crops up all over the internet in blogs, posts, memes, and commentary. The majority of those who exhibit and spread the behavior are unaware of it and the effect it has on them. They don’t see how this behavior feeds on itself. They don’t know that when you put out a little, you get a lot back in return.<br />
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This behavior is “<a href="http://therearenoothers.wordpress.com/2011/12/28/othering-101-what-is-othering/">Othering</a>”. Othering is mentally classifying “others” of some group to be fundamentally different than yourself. Othering denies the basic humanity of the “Othered”. Othering combines prejudice, bias, objectivism, and more into a toxic mental process and supersedes rational thinking and balanced judgment. <br />
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But the true danger of Othering comes from its appeal. It has the ability to make those who use it feel be good. It justifies their beliefs. It creates camaraderie. It solidifies bonds. Othering bypasses the “thinking brain” and speaks directly to the emotional brain, thus it makes it easier to get your opinion across to susceptible listeners. Othering allows you to skip the need to use time consuming accuracy, facts, and logical statements. You get your supporters to agree with you because it “feels” right to them. <br />
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Your supporters in turn, spread your Othering message. Those with opposite opinions, react emotionally to the Othering. Many of them will have their thinking brains become dormant as they formulate their own Othering based response. Othering begets more Othering creating a feedback loop of emotional thinking. Othering creates a backlash. No matter how worthy the cause, the use of Othering provides short term satisfaction and long term harm to both your cause and humanity. <br />
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Othering can be hard to spot. But once you understand the concept, you will start to see it in many places and forms. Overt prejudice is easy to identify as Othering. It is the Othering that is hidden in the writings of the “educated” that takes a little practice to recognize. The easiest method to find Othering involves the <em>Word Replacement Test</em>. For example, start by using two groups in history that have been historically Othered, Blacks and Jews.<br />
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“Not all <u>men</u> beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly <u>men</u>.”<br />
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“Not all <u>Jews</u> beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly <u>Jews</u>.” <br />
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Next, replace men with Blacks<br />
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“Not all <u>Blacks</u> beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly <u>Black</u>.”<br />
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<strong>End Test</strong><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It is easy to see that the above two word replaced sentences
employ prejudice. Therefore, the original sentence is the Othering of men.
Ironically, it came from a blog post </span><a href="http://www.vox.com/2014/5/15/5720332/heres-why-women-have-turned-the-not-all-men-objection-into-a-meme"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">protesting
gender based sexism.</span></a><o:p></o:p></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">But wait you say, the people who beat their partners ARE
men, everyone knows that. Thus, it can’t be Othering if it is true. Before
determining if the “science is settled” on that matter, please refer to these links:<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<a href="http://www.csulb.edu/~mfiebert/assault.htm"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">REFERENCES
EXAMINING ASSAULTS BY WOMEN ON THEIR SPOUSES OR MALE PARTNERS:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>AN ANNOTATED BIBLIOGRAPHY</span></a><span class="MsoHyperlink"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<a href="http://www.theguardian.com/society/2010/sep/05/men-victims-domestic-violence"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">More
than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals</span></a><o:p></o:p><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Or this book:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<a href="http://www.amazon.com/Woman-Woman-Sexual-Violence-Northeastern/dp/1555535275"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">Woman-to-Woman
Sexual Violence: Does She Call It Rape?</span></a><o:p></o:p><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">What we actually know is the many <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">“Humans beat their partners.” </i>This sentence doesn’t involve Othering
and opens the door to trying to determine why humans engage in this unwanted behavior.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">On the other hand, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">“Not
all men beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly
men.”, </i>this statement is designed to Other men. It is not intended to open
the door to further <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>intellectual discussion
on the subject. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In fact, it is intended
to silence it or create an emotional response. Understanding why some women
beat their partners would provide more information as to why some men beat
their partners because men and women are both human beings with more
similarities than differences. Focusing only on men provides less information.
Othering is designed to limit information and promote emotion.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The method to combat the evil of Othering in all its forms
is to first be able to identify it. Next, it must be treated as both contagious
and a contamination. That requires quarantining the piece and removing the
voice of those that Other from spreading the behavior. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once you spot Othering in a post, writing,
article, or speech, the chances are that Othering has inflected the entire
piece. Othering is like a cockroach, if you see one, you know there are many
more hidden in the shadows.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">The antidote to Othering is to recognize the essential human
nature of all people. Those that Other should not be Othered either. Most of
them, truly believe they are helping their cause. They see themselves as
passionate promoters and activists. Some consider themselves so oppressed that
“the ends justifies the means” no matter what. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In my opinion, Othering is the root of human evil. Due to
the harm Othering has caused throughout history, the use of widespread Othering is not
justified no matter how righteous the cause. Those that knowingly Other are
short sighted and destructive to humanity at large. Those that do it
unknowingly need to be educated on the error of their ways before it’ too late.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">There are many ways in which people try to solve problems in
their lives and in the world. But, there are two widely used methods that take
completely opposite approaches. The method used is usually a function of the
person’s </span><a href="http://wilderdom.com/psychology/loc/LocusOfControlWhatIs.html"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">Locus
of Control</span></a><span style="font-family: inherit;">.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Internal Locus
Problem Solving</b> (ILPS)- Someone with an </span><a href="http://psychcentral.com/encyclopedia/2009/internal-locus-of-control/"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">Internal Locus of Control</span></i></a><span style="font-family: inherit;"> sees the
solution to the problem stemming from his (or her) own actions. He has the
power to change himself. He uses the change within himself to solve his
problem(s). In terms of personal safety, self-defense education and training is
an example of Internal Locus Problem Solving. The solution comes from within.
This method is also known as <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><a href="http://workingwithmckinsey.blogspot.com/2013/11/Top-Down-vs-Bottom-Up-Problem-Solving.html"><span style="color: #0563c1;">Bottom
Up</span></a></i> problem solving.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">External Locus
Problem Solving </b>(ELPS) – Someone with an </span><a href="http://psychcentral.com/encyclopedia/2009/external-locus-of-control/"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">External Locus of Control</span></i></a><span style="font-family: inherit;"> sees the
solution to the problem stemming from the actions of others. They see the
problem on a more global scale. The problem stems from the environment. Therefore,
the solution to solving the problem comes from changing the environment. In
terms of personal safety, self-defense is not the solution. Reducing criminal
behavior is the solution. This method is also known as <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Top Down</i> problem solving.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Theoretically, these two methods should be complimentary.
They should work together solving the problem from both ends. Unfortunately, in
the real world of ideology and advocates, many times proponents of these
methodologies spend a tremendous amount of time and resources disparaging the
other methodology as being ineffective.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The basic thought process behind ILPS, is that social
problems can be solved by the sum of the unique actions of individuals. Social
change occurs when a critical mass of individual behaviors change society, think
of drops in a bucket, a ripple in a pond, </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterfly_effect"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">the butterfly’s wings</span></a><span style="font-family: inherit;">,
etc. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Depending upon the practical problem at hand, this method
may or may not be effective. But, since the actions start with the individual,
there is less of chance for unintended large scale side-effects.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">ELPS is a different matter. The goal is to start by changing
society. The thought process behind ELPS is that other people usually in the
form of government or social institutions, need to become involved (come to the
rescue). They have the power to effect change. In order to get these entities
involved, the problem must be seen as wide scale, and to be as threatening as
possible. The first step of ELPS is not accurately identifying and describing
the problem, it is to make the problem appear as large as possible in order to
get attention.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It is here that hyper-advocates using ELPS become part of
the problem they want to solve. Hyper-Advocates are unwilling to define the
limits (extent) of the problem. They promote the problem as being everywhere
and it occurs all the time. They use terms such as “men do this” or “women do
that” with the implication being that <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">ALL
men to this, ALL the time</i> or <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">ALL
women to that, ALL the time.</i><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">What the Hyper-Advocates don’t understand is that if ALL
people do something, then it is ingrained human nature that is highly unlikely
to change. It is when SOME people do something and others don’t do it, that
there is hope to change behaviors.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In order to draw outside attention, Hyper-Advocates do not
want to promote an accurate description of the problem. They want to promote an
inflated view of the problem. They don’t want accurate studies. They want
inflated studies.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">An effective method to inflate studies is to co-mingle
different data while making it appear as through the data is similar. For
example, “<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">last year in Town X of 50,000
people, there were 1,000 murders and assaults</i>”. That sounds like a
dangerous town. Call in the National Guard. But, what if there was only 1
murder, and 999 assaults which all came in the form of spitting? In this case,
the town doesn’t have a killing problem, it has a spitting problem.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The issue is that there are vastly different needs and
requirements when solving a town wide killing or spitting problem. If you
really want to solve a problem, you need to know exactly WHAT the problem is,
and WHO IS effected by the problem, and WHO is NOT effected. The more accurate
the information, the better. Accuracy provides data needed to solve the
problem. That is what </span><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Epidemiology"><span style="color: #0563c1; font-family: inherit;">epidemiologists</span></a><span style="font-family: inherit;">
do.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">For example, saying that Town X has a “Spit Culture” and
implying that everyone in Town X is a Spitter will not help solve the problem
if the majority of spitting assaults came from a few people who were serial
spitters, AND that many of the victims of these assaults had certain factors in
common, AND that the circumstances of spitting assaults also had certain
factors in common.</span><br />
<o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"></span></o:p><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">Assume the majority of Town X consists of Non-Spitters. Town
X does not have a Spit Culture. It has a culture where the majority
Non-Spitters don’t know how to handle and control the behaviors of the minority
Spitters. And the Hyper-Advocates keep clouding the issue by claiming that Town
X has a “Murder and Spit Culture” in the hopes that some government entity will
pay attention and come to the rescue of the town. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">In addition, when someone tries to accurately assess the
factors involved in the spitting problem, which includes examining factors
specific to the victim and his or her behavior, the Hyper-Advocates squash this
study as “Victim Blaming” and label the person as a <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Murder and Spit Denier</i>. These Hyper-Advocates have a very strong
External Locust of Control. They fundamentally believe that other people’s
actions and behaviors are the source of their problems. Thus, the only solution
is for the others, not them, to change. </span><br />
<o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"></span></o:p><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">As a result of the activities of the Hyper-Advocates, nobody
really knows what is going on. There is no accurate understanding of why the
Serial Spitters spit and why the Non-Spitters don’t. But there are plenty of ideologically
driven theories. There is minimal understanding as to why certain people seem
to get assaulted why others do not. With little understanding and accurate data,
problem solving methods are doomed to fail.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The Hyper-Advocates in their attempt to show the problem is occurring everywhere,
focus their attentions of Town Y and Town Z, labeling them also Murder and Spit
Cultures.</span><br />
<o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"></span></o:p><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;">While my example may involve some satire, the Internet has provided
those who want to solve social problems with a means to band together and a
delivery system for their methods. Those that combine ILPS with ELPS have the
greatest ability to solve society’s problems. On the other hand, the
Hyper-Advocates of ELPS are a huge part of the problem they claim to want to
solve.<o:p></o:p></span>NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-32783739068714245432014-05-16T07:31:00.000-07:002014-05-19T17:05:27.600-07:00Self-Defense Competency: Environmental Knowledge, Rule Knowledge, and Domain Knowledge<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Google the term “self defense” and there almost 10 million results. Millions of people expounding on different ideas of what constitutes self-defense. Google “self-defense competency” and the results drop down to a couple thousand.<br /><br />What does it mean to be competent in self defense? It doesn’t mean that you are safe. You could safely lock yourself in your fortress-like home and still be incompetent in self-defense.<br /><br />Self defense competency is described in many ways by different people. I define it as a competency in three separate, but inter-related and inter-dependent elements of <em>Environmental Knowledge, Rule Knowledge, and Domain Knowledge. </em></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Where: <br />1. <strong>Environmental Knowledge</strong> (EK) is understanding the general makeup of a location/area/place/environment. For example, what the people do, when they do it, who they do it with, why they do it, where they do it, and how they do it. Having EK means you see the environment as it truly exists, not as how you believe it to be. EK requires understanding basic human nature as well as social norms and cultural motivations. And how these desires and attitudes effect the inhabitant’s rules and behaviors. (<a href="https://www.facebook.com/notes/marc-macyoung/environmental-knowledge/10152234424223089" target="_blank">See Marc MacYoung for the original deeper description of this concept</a>) </span><br />
<span style="font-family: inherit;"><br />2. <strong>Rule Knowledge</strong> (RK) is understanding “how things work” in the specified Environment. The Environment creates the Rules. All human societies, groups, organizations, tribes, families, etc have some form of Rules of Behavior. These rules are specific to the Environment, but underlying them are universal principles and concepts (that are not so hard to understand). It is not enough to know the environment, you also need to know how the rules guide behaviors, allow people to function/work, and to reward and punish behaviors. You need to know who implements/enforces the rules, what are the rules, how the rules are communicated, how the rules are enforced, how compliance/respect for the rules is shown. Understanding the “rules” of criminal behavior is essential to RK. <br />
<br />3. <strong>Domain Knowledge</strong> (DK) is having the knowledge and skills to deal with/operate in the specific Environment and to be capable of protecting yourself and others (within reason). It is here that understanding criminal behavior is critical. A major portion of DK is having both EK and RK. It takes EK to derive RK. It takes RK to develop the competency of DK. DK is what most people think of as “how to do self-defense”. What they don’t “see” is the underlying knowledge of when to do something, what to do, why to do it, where to do it, and against whom, or not against whom, and when it works, when it doesn’t, and what to do next. <br /><br /><br />The opposite of Self-Defense Competency is Self-Defense Incompetency. Since Self-Defense Competency requires having all three elements of EK and RK and DK, incompetency means lacking any one of the three. Most Self-Defense Incompetency stems from not having a complete understanding of Environmental Knowledge. This partial understanding leads to insufficient Rule Knowledge and incomplete or entirely defective Domain Knowledge.<br /><br />Despite being the foundation of Self-Defense Competency, Environmental Knowledge frequently is assumed to be common knowledge. It is viewed as simply occurrences of Bad Guys assaulting Good Guys in some manner. Environmental Knowledge is also separate from “situational awareness”. It is not enough to simply be aware, you need to know what you are looking for, and what to be aware of.</span>NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-90894903345536785742014-05-12T08:15:00.001-07:002014-05-12T08:15:55.266-07:00The Two Kinds of “How”. Which One Do You Use?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The word “how” appears frequently in self-defense related
questions and answers as in<br />
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“<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">How</i></b>
do I defend myself from X?” and “This is <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">how</i></b> you defend yourself from Y.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Typically, this “how” refers to some physical technique
someone can employ when being “attacked” in some manner. This is the “<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Simple How</i>”. When the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Simple How</i> is used in questions, it
leads to simplistic answers.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">“Complex How” </i>takes
into consideration that <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">how </i>is actually
a multi-faceted question that needs to take into consideration “<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">who, what, when, where, and why</i>”. For
example, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">how </i>you effectively defend
yourself, requires the use of the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Complex
How</i>.<br />
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Who </b>are you? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> are your physical, mental, and emotional strengths and
limitations?<br />
<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Who</b> is the other person? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What </b>are his or her physical, mental,
and emotional strengths and limitations?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Who </b>are you with?
<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Who</b> else is involved? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Who </b>are your responsible for besides
yourself?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> are the
circumstances of the attack? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b>
are you in the process of doing? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What </b>is
your level of experience? ‘<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What </b>are
some of your skills? What are your weaknesses? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> options do you have? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b>
might have you done to provoke this attack? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What </b>might you have done to avoid it? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> is the motivation level of the attacker? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What </b>is your motivation level to defend yourself? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> type of weapons may be involved?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">When</b> is this “attack”
taking place? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">When</b> will your
response make the situation better? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">When
</b>will it make it worse? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">When </b>will
your response get you into legal trouble? When will it be considered legally justified?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Where</b> are you at
the time of this “attack”? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Where </b>is
a place of safety? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Where </b>are others
who could assist you? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Where </b>are
other potential assailants located? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What
</b>are the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Rules of Behavior</i>
specific to <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">where</b> you are located?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Why </b>is this
person attacking you? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> is his or
her motivation? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What</b> would be an
effective deterrent strategy? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Why</b>
might this strategy work? <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Why</b> might
it not work?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Which one do you usually use?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Yesterday, I was in the middle of a crowded bike ride in New York City, I had just rode off a curb in order to get from the sidewalk to the street when my gears started to rattle. I quickly pulled over and inspected my gear wheel. Sure enough, part of the derailleur was sagging over the gears. As I peddled forward, the derailleur would rub against the gear teeth causing the problem. <br />
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As I was trying to determine how to solve this problem, my friend came over and asked me what was going on. I explained how I had gone off the curb and how the impact must have dislodged the derailleur from its correct position. The issue was that even though I knew what happened, I had no idea how to fix it. In truth, I am not a “gear head” and this repair was beyond my ability. <br />
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“Erik, what about the cracked plastic piece on the chain roller by the pedal?” my friend said. “No, that’s not the problem”, I responded”. “It’s the derailleur”. It was very clear to me what had caused the problem, I just didn’t know how to fix it. <br />
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My friend hands me his knife as says “Erik, cut that piece off”. I give him an annoyed look and took the knife. As I sawed away at the plastic, I was thinking how this cutting is a waste of time. I knew what the real problem was. Low and behold, once the broken plastic was removed, the problem was solved. I was completely and utterly wrong. <br />
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I had created an entire story my head about what had caused the problem. How going off the curb had dislodged the derailleur. And now it was rubbing on the gears. I could “see” it. I was both blind and resistant to new information. But my friend hadn’t observed me going off the curb. He came upon me on the side of the road. He had no theory as to what caused the problem. I was fixated on the derailleur. He wasn’t. He had a fresh set of eyes. My observation was hopelessly biased by my internal script of causation. <br />
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What are some other scripts of causation? How about “<a href="http://xyfeminist.wordpress.com/the-male-privilege-list/" target="_blank">Male Privilege</a>”. This is a central theory of how Male Privilege effect’s all men’s behavior. <br />
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Note that Male Privilege is seen to effect and influence ALL men, not just SOME men. <br />
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Here is an article forwarded to me by a female friend of mine. We were just having a discussion on how to deal with [some] men who don’t seem to get the hint that it is time from them to go away. <br />
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<a href="http://www.eberhardtsmith.com/stop-saying-i-have-a-boyfriend" target="_blank">Stop Saying "I Have A Boyfriend</a>" <br />
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Now, I agree with much of what this female author is saying. And I think it is very unfortunate that she has to deal with this issue. But, I want to focus on what she considers to be the root “cause” of the problem. <br />
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<em>“Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.”</em> <br />
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According to the post author, the “cause” of the problem is Male Privilege. And the only reason why “I have a boyfriend" works is due to Male Privilege. Thus, Male Privilege is deemed to be as certain as the Law of Gravity. Its existence explains all men’s actions. <br />
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But how do Male Privilegists know what ALL men are thinking at ALL times? How are they able to determine how Male Privilege effects all men, especially given that most of them don’t live the lives of men? They see some men from their own prospective. Could it be that some women (and men) are fixated on blaming Male Privilege as being the cause of ALL men’s behaviors in relation to women? <br />
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Let's assume for a moment that there is some other force that directs some men's actions when dealing with women. Let’s call it <a href="http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith/19_dating_advice.html" target="_blank">Fear of Rejection</a>. In this case, some men act in a manner designed reduce feeling the <a href="http://madamenoire.com/24569/take-a-bow-11216/" target="_blank">emotional pain of rejection</a>. Instead of feeling the power and control of Male Privilege, they instead feel insecurity. <br />
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Therefore, when it appears they just have been, or are being, or are about to be rejected, they engage in a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Abnormality_(behavior)" target="_blank">dysfunctional</a> strategy to "<a href="http://www.tokyo-foreigners.com/living-tips/understanding-the-asian-concept-of-saving-face/" target="_blank">save face</a>". This strategy entails appearing to not really care about the woman, to treat her as an object, to dehumanize her, to engage in unwanted banter, to call her a lesbian, to argue, to ignore her boundaries, to threaten her. The man does everything he can to transform the rejection into something else. In his mind, he didn't care anyway. It was just a game. It's her problem. She's a bitch. All of these actions are designed to mask the fact that he has in fact been rejected. <br />
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To someone fixated on Male Privilege. The man’s behaviors can easily be explained as the result of Male Privilege. The problem is that the Male Privilege causation model leaves no room for any man to behave in a manner not consistent with its declarations. There is no male vulnerability or Fear of Rejection in the Male Privilege model. There is only actions resulting from male superiority, power, and control. <br />
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I am suggesting that SOME men behave in certain ways due to Male Privilege. And SOME men behave in certain ways due to Fear of Rejection. And SOME men behave in other ways due to other reasons. But, the belief that ALL men's actions at ALL times can be explained by Male Privilege is an example of fixation on an <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ideology" target="_blank">ideological theory</a> of causation. <br />
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Why might the phrase "I have a boyfriend" work for deterring some men for reasons that have nothing to do with Male Privilege as outlined above? How about the simplicity of the fact that it provides a face saving exit? The man can tell himself that he hasn't been rejected after all. His ego remains intact. There has been no personal rejection. Or maybe, the man respects the woman. He realizes that she don't want to be romantically pursued and he drops the issue. <br />
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If someone, male or female, provides you with unwanted romantic attention, setting a firm boundary with clear communication, and escalating responses is an effective methodology. Saying you have a boyfriend when in fact you do not, is a lie, and as such is by definition not clear communication. It ingrains habits of non-assertiveness. The direct assertive response is most likely to be the most effective response in these situations. NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-23805854061946693332014-04-07T06:36:00.001-07:002014-04-07T07:19:50.735-07:00The Violation Triangle<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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The Violation Triangle is a model that explains the creation and existence of human violations in society both on an individual basis and also on a systemic multi-incident basis. And it shows the steps necessary to reduce the violations.<br />
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The Violation Triangle utilizes the same three element concept of the Fire Triangle. In order to create and sustain fire, there must be three elements present: heat, fuel and air. The combination of these elements in sufficient quantities makes fire and keeps it going. Knowledge of the Fire Triangle is essential to devising the most effective strategy to extinguish a fire. Depending upon the circumstances, fire-fighters will attempt to remove one or more of these elements to put out the fire. For example, water reduces heat, foam takes away air, and creating a fire-break denies fuel. <br />
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Human violations between a Perpetrator (s) and Victim arise from the presence of three essential (I) Elements. (1) Significant INEQUALITY of Relative Power, Control, and Status (RPCS) between the parties. (2) The Victim is ISSOLATED from protective resources such as family, friends, and policing agents and institutions. (3) The Perpetrator has INTENT to harm, i.e. wants to do something that violates the Victim in some manner. These three elements are the essential ingredients that occur during a singular incident of violation. They occur during multiple incidents of violations among different people or for a single person at various times. <br />
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The greater the presence of these 3I Elements in society, the more likely that violations will occur. The greater magnitude of the 3I Elements, the greater the rate of violations. The Fire Triangle analogy is: the more people that store gasoline next to space heaters in ventilated basements, the greater the rate of house fires.<br />
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Therefore, the most effective means of lowering the overall rate of violations in society or the number of violations to any one individual requires a three pronged approach that addresses each of the 3I Elements.<br />
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INEQUALITY of RPCS comes in many forms. It could be the result of a disparity in physical power, strength, size, and ability between the parties. It could be created by use of a tool such as a weapon. It could be created by a tactical advantage such as multiple attackers or the use of surprise. Inequality also arises from social hierarchies and from personal relationships such as employer to employee, teacher to student, or care-giver to patient. <br />
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Groups of people with higher RPCS in society tend to treat the “lower” tier of people as less than equal or subhuman to some degree. This is the process of “Othering” that maintains strict social classes in society. Nationalism, sexism, racism, and ableism are all common forms of Othering.<br />
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On bottom tier of society are the lower RCPS groups such as people with developmental and physical disabilities, the homeless, the LGBT community, the poor, minorities, and in many cultures, women. These groups as a whole have less RPCS than the higher tier groups such as the wealthy, celebrities, athletes, business owners, politicians, law enforcement, military officers, professors, and so forth.<br />
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While there are always exceptions, and people who can be described by multiple classes, the general rule of division of RPCS by societal social class holds true. In addition, RPCS can also be temporary, and it can be increased or lowered on a situational level. It is also relative to the other person involved. A person with low RPCS in society may have greater RPCS than a person with very low RPCS, for example abled-bodied homeless man vs. disabled homeless woman.<br />
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ISOLATION also comes in multiple forms. In today’s modern world, all people are dependent upon the overall smooth functioning of society for survival. People depend upon each other for basic needs such as food, shelter, and security in some form or another. When someone is isolated from these protective resources they become vulnerable.<br />
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Generally, the primary level of protective resources comes from the inner circle of family and close friends. The secondary level is the authority figures, policing agents and institutions of society. These resources serve to protect individuals from would-be violators. <br />
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When the perpetrator is a family member or “friend”, not only is this primary means of protection unavailable for defense, this person has close access to his victim making it easier for him to create isolation. A violator that has isolated his selected lower RPCS victim from the protective intervention of others now has the unfettered ability to manipulate his victim as he chooses. <br />
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Isolation can take the form of emotional control as well as a physical separation. A victim that will not report a violation has been effectively isolated from the protective resources of society designed to punish violators. Violators will use fear, intimidation, guilt, and other coercive means to limit reporting.<br />
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INTENT is the most variable of the <em>3I Elements</em>. It defines the perpetrator’s motivation or desire to commit a violating act. As with all humans, the perpetrator’s motivation is transitory. It is subject to change. The magnitude of a person’s intent is a function not only of the individual’s emotional drive and hard wiring, it is also effected by the circumstances of the situation, and influenced by cultural norms.<br />
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The quest to change the “sexually violating” intent of men is the focus of some feminist “Teach Men Not to Rape” campaigns. The theory is that with proper education and social pressure, men’s sexually aggressive bad INTENT will be reduced. Thus resulting in lower incidents of sexual assault in society.<br />
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INTENT is influenced in many ways. The concept behind societal enforcement and punishment is a direct attempt to lower bad intent by creating a deterrence to committing future violations. Enforcement can also come directly from the actions of an individual as he or she uses force to stop and punish violations. Throughout history physical pain has proven to be an effective method to change a person’s motivation.<br />
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Intent may also vary depending upon the parties involved. A perpetrator who may have a low threshold of intent may be deterred by effective boundary setting. In this case, the perpetrator is risk adverse and is only willing to assault the most hapless of victims, i.e. someone with much lower RPCS in an isolated setting.<br />
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Intent may also result from having an anti-social personality. As with the case with psychopaths, these individuals by definition due not conform to the norms of society. Anti-rape education will not lower the violating intent of these people. The combination of this type of person with high RPCS along with the multiple opportunities to isolate lower RPCS people usually results in serial victimizations.<br />
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The <em>3I Elements</em> work together to create a perfect storm of violating synergy. Each Element also has the ability to effect the other Elements. In the same manner that “Absolute power corrupts absolutely”, so does having high RPCS raise some people’s degree of violating intent. Being isolated with a suitable victim may encourage a potential perpetrator’s violating intent, i.e. creating a crime of opportunity. Having high malicious intent and motivation is a factor that leads to higher RPCS.<br />
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Once the concepts of the <em>Violation Triangle</em> are understood, it becomes much easier to find strategies to defeat it. The <em>Violation Triangle</em> allows specific methods of violation prevention to be examined for logical truths and flaws. For example, some claim that binge drinking on college campuses increases the rate of male to female sexual assault. While other’s claim alcohol is not a factor. The Violation Triangle clarifies the issue.<br />
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Assume a college party held on school grounds that is well policed. All the party goers spend the entire night in the same large on room with the lights on and there are no isolated locations. In this case, regardless of how drunk the women get, and even with the presence of some men with “rapist” intent, the lack of opportunity to isolate victims from protective resources makes incidents of sexual assault unlikely. <br />
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Or assume, the local Anti-Sexual Violence against Women chapter holds an invitation only mixed gender sleep over with an open bar at local guest house. Regardless of how much the invitees drink, the lack of guests with “rapist” intent and the general parity of RPCS will eliminate the occurrence of a sexual assault.<br />
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On the other hand, assume the party is held at a local fraternity with numerous bedrooms, private areas and darkened corners without policing supervision. This fraternity houses several men with high RPCS, and these same men have sexually aggressive tendencies or outright violating intent. A woman who is drunk has effectively lowered her RPCS. She now has impaired judgment and decision making, a parallel to the impaired judgment and decision making of the highest category of sexual assault victims – the development disabled. The more of these drunken women at the party, the more likely one or more of them will be selectively isolated by a high RPCS man with bad intent. The likely result will be a sexual assault.<br />
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The <em>Violation Triangle</em> applies to not only sexual assault. It applies to bullying, abuse, harassment, dating and domestic violence, and more. The <em>Violation Triangle</em> is a tool to understand and evaluate how to prevent violations from occurring both on an individual level and also on a systemic multi-incident basis.NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-30746964697566294792014-03-30T11:20:00.000-07:002014-03-31T10:52:35.940-07:00Making Sense of the Rape Culture Wars<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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the area of sexual assault prevention, most likely you have been exposed to the
raging ideological battles revolving around the existence or non-existence of
Rape Culture and its effect on the rate of rape and sexual assault in society.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Briefly, the concept behind Rape Culture
is that society’s systemic sexual objectification of women creates an environment
that both promotes male sexual aggression and condones sexual assault. These cultural
norms and attitudes of society effectively create more men with ‘bad intent’. Since
men are the primary perpetrators of sexual assault, more men with ‘bad intent’
leads to more incidents of sexual assault. Therefore, reducing the rate of
sexual assault in society requires changing society’s attitudes regarding the
objectification of women.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">This approach is Macro or Top Down. It is
very appealing to many for its simplicity. It puts the blame for sexual assault
on men. Women are simply the victims with no agency to influence the outcome of
male sexual aggression. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">On a theoretical level, Rape Culture makes
logical sense. The flaw in this explanation is that it is exclusionary and
simplistic. The overall problem of sexual assault in society is the aggregate
of multiple individual or micro incidents. Besides male perpetrators and female
victims, incidents include, but are not limited to:<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sexual assault of children by both men and women.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Sexual assault in the prison system.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The victims in these above four categories
are not sexually objectified by cultural norms. In fact, particularly with children
and people with disabilities, these victims are traditionally viewed as asexual
by society. Therefore, Rape Culture is exclusionary in that its explanation
excludes many victims of sexual assault.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Rape Culture is simplistic because it only
focuses on ‘Intent’ as the primary factor of sexual assault. There are also two
more factors present during incidents of sexual assault. They are Inequality of
Relative Power/Control/Status (RPCS) and the victim is Isolated from support
systems such as family, friends, bystanders, and protective agents and
institutions. These three factors occur in all categories of sexual assault
regardless of the gender of the perpetrator and victim.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">These 3I’s of Intent, Inequality, and
Isolation are analogous to the Fire Triangle. It takes Fuel, Heat, and Air to
create and sustain fire. Fighting fire requires eliminating one or more of
these elements. Rape Culture focuses only on the element of male sexual Intent
and ignores the presence of Inequality and Isolation as additional elements
that allow for sexual assault.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The goal of society is to reduce the
overall incidents of sexual assault by all available means. That requires minimizing
both systemic Inequality and Isolation. Firefighters use all means available to
fight fires. They don’t promote and use exclusionary and simplistic tactics
that only focus on one type of fire with only one solution. They evaluate all
the elements on a case by case basis, and focus on the most appropriate
solution for the circumstances.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">An opposing view to Rape Culture is that
incidents of sexual assault are the result of perpetrators that don’t conform
to the norms of society. Therefore, reducing sexual assault involves taking
into consideration all the factors involved including the victim’s
vulnerabilities and pre-assault behavior, not just the aggressor’s bad intent.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The extremists of the Rape Culture Wars
loudly denounce the opposing side’s view. A Rape Culturist sees any perspective
that doesn’t focus solely on the perpetrator as “Victim Blaming”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those that don’t conform to the Rape
Culturist view are denounced as Victim Blamers and Rape Apologists.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>On the other hand, those that deny the
existence of Rape Culture, ignore the reality of ingrained societal beliefs and
institutions that don’t support victims of sexual assault and poorly enforce
violations. All of which leads to low levels of reporting and lack of
confidence in the system by victims.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Rape Culture doesn’t take into
consideration that systemic sexual assaults requires Inequality in the form of
the availability of disempowered potential victims who are targeted and
successfully victimized. The underlying belief of Rape Culture is that ALL
women are equal opportunity targets.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And
simply because they are women, no matter what they do or how they behave, they
have no ability to effect the outcome of an encounter with any given male.
Therefore, ALL males are potential rapists. All men are in need anti-rape
education.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Rape Culture effectively creates two
uniform categories, vulnerable female victims and male perpetrators, where all
males have dominance over all females.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>In such an environment, the arguments of Rape Culture make sense. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">But in actuality, in the high sexual
assault environment of colleges and universities in the western world such a
division doesn’t exist.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The majority of
men and women have equal Relative Power, Control, and Social status (RPCS). But
there also exist some High RPCS men and some High RPCS women, and some Low RPCS
men and some Low RPCS women. Rape Culture is describing what systemically
occurs when High RPCS men are combined with Low RPCS women (Inequality) and the
High RPCS male has Intent to violate and the Low RPCS female is Isolated from
protective resources.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Violations result from the 3I’s of
Inequality, Isolation, and Intent regardless of which gender is the High RPCS
and which gender is the Low RPCS individual.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">A culture that:<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">promotes Inequality by creating High RPCS and Low RPCS
individuals<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">promotes and rewards the existence of violating Intent, and<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">allows for Low RPCS individuals to be systemically Isolated
from and unsupported by institutional protections and enforcement by High RPCS
individuals,<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">is a Violating Culture. A Violating
Culture is a non-exclusionary and multifaceted explanation of systemic sexual
assault whereas Rape Culture is exclusionary and simplistic. Violations need
not be only sexual assault. They include bullying, abuse, sexual harassment,
dating and domestic violence, and more.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">In terms of the systemic problem of sexual
assault on colleges. Any and all factors that contribute to greater Inequality,
Isolation, and Intent increases the overall rate of sexual assault.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Here are some examples:<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Actual gender inequality increases the rate of sexual
assault. But so does learned helplessness created by intimidated victims conforming
to the lowered expectations of gender equality.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Consuming alcohol by a male increases the chance of his
committing a sexual assault if the alcohol gives him a feeling of greater RPCS
and less moral resistance to assaultive behavior. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">If consuming alcohol lowers a woman’s RPCS, it places her
in the victim pool of Low RPCS potential victims. The greater the size of the
victim pool, the greater the opportunity for sexual assault. Conversely, if drinking
makes her less likely to be intimidated and more willing to enforce her personal
boundaries, she is less likely to be sexually victimized in the most common fashion.</span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Social rewarding and encouraging aggressive male sexual
behavior from individuals with High RPCS increases Intent and the rate of sexual
assault (i.e. certain athletes and popular Frat boys).<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Poorly communicating and enforcing the rules and laws of
behavior in regards to sexual consent by both victims and protective
institutions (college administrations, local law enforcement) increases the
rate of sexual assault.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Disempowered bystanders who do not intervene to obvious
situations of assaultive behavior increase the opportunities for successful
sexual assault.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">These are only some of the overall factors
involved.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The above list shows that most western college
campuses are indeed Violating Cultures. These Violating Cultures combine both the
elements of traditional Rape Culture and expanded factors (decried by Rape
Culturists as Victim Blaming) such as systemically (binge drinking is a
systemic problem) disempowered victims with minimal ability to deter assaults
through strong communication and enforcement of personal boundaries.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The solution to systemic violations lies
in tackling all the factors that increase the 3I’s of Inequality, Isolation,
and Intent on both a macro and micro level, not just the factors which conform
to an agenda driven ideology.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">It requires a concerted effort to increase
respect for victims of sexual assault. Not only by society, but also by the potential
victims themselves so they do not fall into the Low RPCS victim pool. It
requires increasing respect for the Rules of Behavior through both clear
communication (consent education) of the Rules and appropriate enforcement of
the Rules by individuals and Institutions.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">High RPCS individuals must learn to
respect both Low RPCS people and the Rules of Behavior. The overall effect of
increasing Respect, Communication, and Enforcement of the Rules will decrease
Inequality, lower the ability to create Isolation, and reduce Intent to do harm.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Thereby decreasing the overall rate of sexual
assault and all other forms of unwanted behavior on college campuses and elsewhere
in society.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 11pt; line-height: 118%; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">In summary, Rape Culture exists as a smaller
subset of the larger problem of a Violating Culture. Reducing Violating Cultures
effectively reduces Rape Cultures, but the reverse is not true.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<strong>RAPE CULTURE PROMOTERS</strong>:<br />
<span class="entry-title"><a href="http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culture/" target="_blank">Why we need to keep talking about ‘rape culture’</a><br />
<a href="http://everydayfeminism.com/2014/03/examples-of-rape-culture/" target="_blank">25 Everyday Examples of Rape Culture</a><br />
</span><span class="entry-title"><a href="http://time.com/40110/rape-culture-is-real/" target="_blank">Rape Culture Is Real</a></span><br />
<br />
<strong>RAPE CULTURE DETRACTORS:</strong><br />
<a href="http://time.com/30545/its-time-to-end-rape-culture-hysteria/" target="_blank">It’s Time to End ‘Rape Culture’ Hysteria</a><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"><a href="http://ww2.nationalpost.com/m/wp/blog.html?b=fullcomment.nationalpost.com%2F2014%2F03%2F08%2Fbarbara-kay-rape-culture-fanatics-dont-know-what-a-culture-is" target="_blank">Rape culture’ fanatics don’t know what a culture is</a><br /><a href="http://www.realclearpolitics.com/articles/2013/03/28/is_america_a_rape_culture_117710.html" target="_blank">Is America A "Rape Culture"?</a><br />
<br /><br /><strong>OTHERS</strong></span><br />
<a href="http://rainn.org/images/03-2014/WH-Task-Force-RAINN-Recommendations.pdf" target="_blank">RAINN comments and recommendations to the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault.</a><br />
<span style="font-size: small;"><a href="http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/how-not-to-talk-about-a-culture-of-sexual-assault/359845/" target="_blank">How Not to Talk About a Culture of Sexual Assault</a></span>NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-35138730845917945502014-03-21T16:52:00.001-07:002014-04-07T06:33:50.578-07:00D.U.M.B.S. versus S.M.A.R.T.S.<br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Type in “self-defense” in an
internet search and you will receive a huge amount of hits. You will receive web
links to all sorts of self-defense training systems. Upon reviewing these sites,
you will notice that most make similar claims to be practical, realistic, and
simple to learn and apply. <o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">How do you decide which type of
self-defense training or system is best for you?<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Self-defense that is taught (as
opposed to instinctive) means learning a “system”. The systems vary, but they can
be grouped by certain characteristics that they share in common. If you view
all the systems as a continuum. On one side is SMARTS and the opposite side is
DUMBS. Any particular system will fall somewhere within this continuum.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">DUMBS</span></span></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> stands for <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">D</b>ehumanize
– <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">U</b>niversal – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">M</b>indless – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">B</b>ody-based- <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">S</b>implistic<br />
<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">SMARTS</b> stands for <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">S</b>mart – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">M</b>indful - <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">A</b>pplicable – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">R</b>eason-based – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">T</b>actics – <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">S</b>trategies<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Expanding upon these
characteristics. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Dehumanize</span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> - Most
likely the biggest differentiator. Many self-defense systems are predicated on
you dehumanizing the other person as the Bad Guy. The Bad Guy is a criminal. He
is evil. He has no past. He has no future. He exists to do bad things to good
people. He lies. He cheats. He steals. He robs. He rapes. He kills. He does all
these things because he is the epitome of evil. His motivation for violence is
unknowable. He is a stranger that appears out of the shadows. The only way to
deal with such an inhuman monster is to injure or kill him as quick as
possible. His death makes the world a better place.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Dehumanizing the “attacker”
simplifies the situation to one where there are no consequences, no negative
side effects for your defensive actions. The Bag Guy intends to violently
attack you. Therefore, your use of violence is required and morally justified.
There is no need to consider the legal and ethical ramifications of your
actions. He is bad and you’re a good. Case closed.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Universal</span></i></b><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> – </span></i></span><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">The techniques and skills you learn
work for everybody on everyone. No matter what your particular size, strength,
athletic ability is, you will be able to successful apply the instructed
techniques. And these same techniques are universally effective against all Bad
Guys regardless of their gender, size, strength, and athletic ability.<br />
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The universal concept is also a form of dehumanization. You are not viewed as
an individual with behaviors and characteristics that influence your personal
safety. You are just another potential victim of a Bad Guy. Everyone is made
equally safe by the application of the instructed techniques.<br />
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Many times Universal systems can be identified by the uniform appearance and
attitude of the practitioners. They all receive the same instruction regardless
of their individuality. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Mindless</span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> - This
concept is an extension of dehumanization. In this case, you are dehumanized as
nothing more than a “body” that needs to imprint certain movements in order to
defend itself. You don’t need good judgment and critical thinking abilities.
There will be no time to think. Remember, the dehumanized stranger will be
jumping out of the bushes. You just need to respond automatically with your
trained movements. Regardless of your emotional state, your training will kick
in and your evil attacker will be defeated. Constant repetition or the use of
“stress training” will burn the movements into your nervous system for instant
availability when needed.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Body-Based </span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">– Mindless
systems depend upon mostly body based movements as opposed to learning
effective strategies and having both in depth knowledge and good judgment.
Self-defense as seen as a collection of physical techniques. Many times these
techniques are described as “brutally effective”. They will allow you to stop
any attacker in any situation. These techniques and skills are claimed to have
been developed scientifically, or during World War II hand-to-hand combat, or
by the military’s special operations units, or through thousands of years of
refinement, or by some other secret method. These techniques will allow you (Universal)
to (Mindlessly) devastate your (Dehumanized) attacker and incapacitate him from
his evil plan of rape, mayhem and murder. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Promoters of Body-based systems are
mainly focused on their strength, speed, power, skill, brutality and
ruthlessness.<o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Simplistic</span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> – The
overriding assumption is that the situations in which you will need
self-defense are always clear cut. There are no gray areas. No fog of war. No
chance of confusion or mis-identification. You will be minding your own
business when either threatened or viciously attacked by the dehumanized Bad
Guy(s). You will have no participation in creating the violence. You will be easily
able to identify the assailant due to his evil appearance, creepiness, and/or
threatening actions.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Also assumed is that you will be
mentally and physically ready and willing to respond to the threat. Simplistic
systems don’t take into consideration such factors as submissive social
conditioning, fear of making the situation worse, physiological changes from
adrenaline, weakened physical states, disability, distractedness, your relation
to the aggressor, your role the interaction, and the legal and ethical
consequences of your actions. All these factors are excluded from Simplistic
systems.<br />
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Simplistic systems are closed to adaption and expansion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They don’t evolve to deal with multiple
environments and multifaceted situations.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Make no mistake. There is a place
for DUMBS. Evil does exist. There are people who behave like inhuman monsters.
But as a statistical matter, most people are unlikely to run into such a person
in their life time in civilized societies. And if they do, old style yelling and running away is a viable option.</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">DUMBS systems rely upon your fear
of the stereotypical dehumanized Bad Guy as their marketing ploy. They pander
to your fears. They play upon the images planted in your mind through countless
news stories of evil perpetrators and innocent victims, of Hollywood villains,
and the self-defense product industry such as firearm, pepper spray, and other
personal safety product manufacturers and retailers. They use inflated
statistics promoted by agenda driven grant seeking anti-rape/anti-violence organizations.
They exploit your fear of crime as decried by hardline politicians and the law
enforcement/prison industry.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">For some people, the unfortunate
side-effect of DUMBS training is increased fear of being victimized by crime.
Rather than providing peace of mind. Many DUMBS trainees are left feeling that
the world is a hostile and dangerous place as a whole. That people are just
attacked without reason. That they need to live in a constant state of
vigilance in order to spot the Bad Guy before he launches his attack.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">For other people, their belief that
brutally effective fighting techniques have been implanted into them provides
them with a false sense of security. Their understanding of self-defense and
violence is tiny domain, but they extrapolate it to the entire universe. These
people are more likely to be victimized in a manner they have never envisioned.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">SMARTS personal safety systems on
the other hand take the opposite approach. <br />
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Smart
</i></b>– This word stands for using your brain foremost. It means using your
innate intelligence to make critical decisions that combine good judgment and
experience. It means learning about the root causes of violence as opposed to
accepting “sound bites” and common knowledge. It means studying criminal
behavior and human behavior. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Smarts is about your ability to
process information in a useful manner. It is about using your mind before your
apply your body to solve problems and resolve potentially violent situations. It
is about recognizing tells, signs, indicators, and pre-cursors to violence in
order to preempt it.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Unlike those systems that
dehumanize aggressors, it is your understanding of people and your ability to
evaluate their potential behaviors and actions that is the key to your safety.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Mindful</span></i></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"> </span></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">– Being mindful means that you are aware of both
yourself and your environment. Mindful is not a state of hyper-alertness or
anxiety. It doesn’t mean you look under your car for a rapist before unlocking
the car door. It means that you are aware of what is happening around you. You
use all your senses (including your sixth sense) to process input from the
world. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">You are knowledgeable of your own conscious
and unconscious attitudes and behaviors. You are cognizant of how your behavior
has an effect on those around you. You are in tune with yourself and others,
and as a result you are less likely to be caught by surprise by their actions.
You are able to differentiate between those that are trustworthy and those that
should be regarded with suspicion.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Applicable </span></i></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">– </span></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">What you learn must be applicable to you. That means
that you are seen as an individual with specific strengths and weaknesses that
must be taken into consideration. It is not a question of what works best for
most people. But what works best for you in whatever situation you would most
likely find yourself in.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Whatever you learn must be
applicable to your actual life. You must be able to see the connection between
the knowledge and skills you learn and your life. If the focus is on
“unthinkable” events, then you will not think about them. As a result, those
skills will vanish as quickly as they arrived.<br />
<br />
Personal safety is a constant process not a singular event. Your body is
constantly fighting off infection and invasive threats from bacteria and
viruses. It is an ongoing process. But there are certain times, such as
visiting a hospital or upon receiving a cut, that you give this process extra
attention and take additional precautionary measures.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">If you can’t apply and relate what
you are learning to your own life, you will not really learn it.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Realism </span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">– Realism is not reality T.V. Realism focuses on what actually is the case as opposed to what people believe or want to be true. Most people
do things for a reason. The idea of acts of violence are random and senseless denies this truth. Unlike popular misconception, most violence does
not result from the stranger that emerges from the bushes. Most violence occurs
between people who have some type of social based relationship. The violence
emerges from this interaction. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Studying Violence
Dynamics and criminal behavior takes these factors into consideration.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Predatory violence is also reason
driven. The predator has his reason for assaulting his victim. It could be to
gain or protect a resource. It could be for the enjoyment of the assault
itself. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Understanding the reason or
rational that someone would want to use violence against you provides the key
to predicting behaviors and creating a response that has a higher likelihood of
being an effective deterrent or that may make him or her stop his actions. </span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Realism also takes into consideration a person's true strengths and weaknesses. Realism allows a person to make accurate assessments based on his or her true capabilities as opposed to false confidence in one's ability to handle dangerous situations.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Calibri;"><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Tactics – </span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">Unlike simple
techniques, tactics are more complex. A technique is a series or sequence of
steps that you execute. A tactic on the other hand is an executable methodology
designed to achieve a certain task or objective. Tactics can be thought of as strategic
techniques. Effective tactics utilize concepts and principles to accomplish
their goal.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">A particular type of strike is a
technique. Using a strike as a means to stun someone is a tactic. Using tactics
provides greater variety in how the task is achieved. Techniques are focused
more on the execution of action itself rather than the result.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">Strategy – </span></span></i></b><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">A strategy
can be a combination of techniques and tactics used to complete a planned goal.
Strategies begin with a plan and end with the execution of that plan. A
strategy takes into consideration multiple factors and variables in order to
obtain the goal. There are natural strategies such as running away, or trained
strategies as certain fighting methods and/ or postures. A complex strategy
takes into consideration the failure of certain elements of the strategy and
has a built in backup plan.<br />
<br />
Strategies can be simple and not be simplistic. They can be complex without
being complicated. Strategies use tactics to achieve their goals. For example, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">attacking the attacker</i> is a strategy
designed to put the attacker on the defensive. Using a flurry of strikes is a
tactic that executes that strategy. An open handed strike is a technique than
may or may not be part of the flurry tactic.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">SMARTS personal safety training can
be just as brutally effective as DUMBS claim to be. SMARTS recognizes that some
attackers will dehumanize you and you may need to dehumanize them in response.
SMARTS can also utilize instantaneous reactions and trained responses without
conscious thought. But SMARTS takes into consideration that most of self-defense
does require conscious thought. There is more thinking than not thinking.
</span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;"></span></span><br />
<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: Calibri;">SMARTS can also use simple movement. SMARTS training encompasses a much wider
variety of environments and situations than DUMBS systems. As such, the motto
of SMARTS training is that “Violence is complicated”. And because violence is
complicated, resolving violence takes more than just learning a DUMBS system.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<br /><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZJ-MGfzpJZU" target="_blank">After Earth: Fear is a Choice</a><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Fear is a common emotion. Fear of violence is also a common
emotion in most people. Fear can be beneficial when it keeps you safe in
certain situations. This is Situational Fear. But when fear is ongoing or not
based on an actual and current threat is becomes Dispositional Fear.
Dispositional Fear creates stress and anxiety. Dispositional Fear makes you
less safe because you have trouble identifying actual threats from imaginary
ones. It lowers your ability to reason and make effective decisions. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>To summarize, some Situational Fear is good
for you, most Dispositional Fear is bad for you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">
</span><br />
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">“To him who
is in fear everything rustles.” - Sophocles<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
<span style="font-family: inherit;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Where does Fear come from? Fear is the result of a person’s
threat assessment of some unwanted event or occurrence. This threat assessment can
be both conscious and/or unconscious and most likely is a combination of both.
The threat assessment is the result of the person’s <u>perception</u> of five
factors:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">CHANCE is the odds or likelihood that the unwanted event
could occur. Theoretically, chance is determined by mathematical odds determined
from statistics. But in the real word, statistic don’t tell the whole story.
They have been cherry picked and manipulated. What Chance really comes down to
is your gut feeling as to the likelihood that something may or may not happen.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">CONTROL is your ability to affect whether or not something
happens. If you have influence on the event occurring you have some control. If
you have no influence, then you have no control.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">CAPABILITY is your ability to handle the event if it does
occur. The greater your ability to deal with the event, the greater your
evaluation of your Capability.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">CONSEQUENCE is the result of what you think is going to
happen. For example, you believe the Consequences of being robbed is the loss
of your wallet. Or you believe that not only will you lose your wallet, you
will also be beaten, raped, and possibly killed.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">COPING is how you handle the unwanted event. Are you able to
deal with the aftermath easily, or do you suffer a high degree of post event
stress, self-blame, and debilitation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">All of these 5C’s are perception and belief based. You
really don’t have concrete data to make a true evaluation based on mathematical
calculations. Your evaluations many be based on experience and evaluation of
the facts. They could be based on perceptions and beliefs acquired through the
news media, Hollywood images, cultural stereotypes, myths and misinformation
promoted by self-serving industries and ideological organizations.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">“There is
no passion so contagious as that of fear.” - Michel de Montaigne<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Your threat assessment depends upon the combination of these
perceptions. For example, a high threat assessment is the result of
Chance=high, Control=low, Capability=low, Consequence=high, Coping=low. Here is
an example. Many parents fear their child will be abducted while walking home
from school. They perceive the Chance is higher than it statistically is. They
have no Control to prevent it. They have no Capability to stop it. The
Consequence is never seeing their child again. They don’t think they could Cope
with the loss. All of these beliefs combine to create a high threat assessment
and associated fear.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">A low threat assessment is the opposite - Chance=low,
Control=high, Capability=high, Consequence=low, Coping=high. All things being
equal, people with an Internal Locus of Control (they make things happen) are
more likely to have lower threat assessments than those with an External Locus
of Control (things happen to them).<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"> </i><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></i></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><em>“I have
learned over the years that when one's mind is made up, this diminishes fear;
knowing what must be done does away with fear.” - Rosa Parks</em></span><br />
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Fear also arises from CREATIVITY. It takes a creative mind to envision the many ways in which harm could occur. Someone with an active imagination has the ability to "see" a whole host of potentially threatening scenarios that simply wouldn't occur to a less creative person. More perceived threats leads to more fear.<br />
<br />
</span><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OwgWkUIm9Gc" target="_blank"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Karen Thompson Walker: What Fear Can Teach Us - TED Talk</span></a><br /><span style="font-family: inherit;">
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</span></span><span style="font-family: inherit;">People with Dispositional Fear combine creativity with a generally higher
baseline threat assessment for unwanted events. They perceive more risk in the
world around them than others. Dispositional Fear can result from multiple
incidents of Situational Fear or occurrences of unwanted events. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">“The only
thing we have to fear is fear itself.” - Franklin D. Roosevelt<o:p></o:p></span></span></i></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Situational Fear is temporary and depends on the
circumstances. Fear of falling disappears when the person is on the ground.
Fear of a particular person should dissipate when that person is not around.
Otherwise, it morphs into Dispositional Fear. Fear from being in a dangerous
situation should disappear when the danger goes away.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The first step to dealing with your fear is understanding
what underlying factors and beliefs have influenced your threat assessment. An
accurate threat assessment is a critical component for insuring safety. Should
you really be afraid and thus your fear is keeping you safe? Or is your fear
unfounded and based on the sum of your worst case perceptions of the 5Cs? Does
your fear keep you anxious and paralyze you into inaction. Is your fear based
on critical thinking and judgment? Or does it arise from unconscious and
ingrained beliefs absorbed from self-serving agendas, negative stereotypes and
fearful images created by popular culture?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: 12pt; line-height: 107%; mso-bidi-font-size: 11.0pt;">“We fear
things in proportion to our ignorance of them.’ - Christian Nestell Bovee</span></i></div>
NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-20872203831962895442014-03-04T09:08:00.001-08:002014-03-05T19:04:06.573-08:00On Offense and Defense<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 118%; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><em><span style="font-family: inherit;">“The best offensive is to eliminate your opponent’s
defense.”<o:p></o:p></span></em></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 118%; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Offense is the concept of actively forcing an action or
event on the Target.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 118%; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">Defense is the
concept of actively resisting this action or event by the Target. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: 12pt; line-height: 118%; mso-bidi-font-size: 10.0pt;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The concepts of
Offense and Defense have no attached or intrinsic value judgments of good and
bad. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">When the Offensive is greater than the Defense it succeeds.
When it is equal or less than the Defense it fails. Increasing Offensive
effectiveness makes it more likely that the intended action will succeed.
Increasing Defensive effectiveness through makes it more likely that the
intended Offensive action will fail.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Understanding Defense makes it easier to successfully apply
effective Offense. Understanding the Offense makes it easier to apply effective
Defense. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;"><em>“The best defense is a good offense.”</em> - Maxim<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Translation - An effective Offense is an important aspect of
an effective Defense. Also known as the concept of “Attack the attacker”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">“The best offensive is to eliminate your opponent’s
defense.”- Erik K.</span><br />
<o:p></o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Translation – No matter how weak or ineffective your offense
is, if your opponent has no defense you will prevail. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Many times it is easier to eliminate or remove your
opponent’s defense than to increase your own offense. It takes effort to
increase your offense capability and effectiveness. Once you have reached a
certain level of offensive capability, further increases are marginally more
difficult. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">If you are a dedicated martial artist, you may be willing to
put in the time and effort for self-improvement. But what if you are a street
thug, common criminal, or human predator? The easiest method to insure your
success is to assault people with no or little defensive capability. Why is
this easy? Because you get to choose who you assault, when you want to assault
them, where you assault them, and with what tools.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">In a civilized society, a person’s defensive capabilities
are the sum of their internal ability (what they can do) and their external
ability (what others can do for them). For example, while most people can steal
candy from a baby, the baby’s defense extends to its care givers and other who
may choose to intervene on its behalf. Taking the candy is only half the battle.
Success also requires getting away without consequences. I call this defensive
external ability, the Institutional Fence.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span><div style="text-align: left;">
<span style="font-family: inherit;">It is common for many cynical people to claim that the
Institutional Fence will not protect them. That the police are slow to arrive.
That help may never come. While this fact may be true in some situations, it is
not true in most situations. In a civilized society, help does arrive sooner or
later. It may arrive too late. But the threat of arrival still exists.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">What the cynics are forgetting is that the mere threat of
the Institutional Fence has an effect on an aggressor, whether or not help
actually arrives in time. The “bad guy” is at-risk. Therefore, predatory people
systematically reduce risk by accurate victim selection.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The low hanging fruit
of the Victim Tree are those that both have minimal defenses and are either
unable or unwilling to seek help before, during, or after the crime (have
certain Factors). </span><br />
<o:p></o:p><span style="font-family: inherit;"> </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Silent Victims
– Afraid to resist and unwilling to seek help. In this case, the Predator uses
familiarity with the victim to determine who to assault. This person is the
lowest risk victim (lowest hanging fruit) for the Predator.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Passive
Victims – Afraid to resist and willing to seek help after the assault. In this
case, the Predator needs to conceal his identity to not get caught. This person
is a low risk victim (low hanging fruit) for the Predator.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Vulnerable
Victims – Unable to successfully resist and willing to seek help after the
assault. This person is more risky since he or she makes an attempt to resist.
This resistance increases the odds that the Predator may be identified or that
help may arrive from the Institutional Fence.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">4.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Hard Target -
Able to resist and willing to seek help. This person represents the greatest
risk to the Predator. The Predator needs to employ strategies to overwhelm his
victim as quickly as possible for success. He needs to shield his identity to
ward off consequences from the Institutional Fence.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">It is clear that the Predator, who has the luxury of
selecting his victim, has the ability to choose the potential victim that is
perceived to offer the greatest odds of success. His odds are increased by
selecting a Silent or Passive Victim with no/low defense as opposed to a Hard
Target with a stronger defense.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">If the Predator increases his offense by employing a weapon,
he also increases the severity of his punishment if convicted. Therefore, the
safest strategy involves selecting a low risk victim who is afraid to resist
and unwilling to engage the protection of the Institutional Fence.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For the Predator, It is safer to lower the
victim’s defense (by selection) than to increase his offense.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">This rational explains why the majority of victims of sexual
assault both know their attacker and also do not report the crime. The victims
were not chosen at random. They were accurately selected as low hanging fruit
offering minimal risk to the attacker. This logic also explains why most of
these assaults involve threats as opposed to force. The use of force is not
needed and using it increases the risk posed by the Institutional Fence.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: 11pt; line-height: 107%; mso-ansi-language: EN-US; mso-ascii-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-bidi-font-family: "Times New Roman"; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-bidi; mso-fareast-font-family: Calibri; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-fareast-theme-font: minor-latin; mso-hansi-theme-font: minor-latin;">Those that want to minimize the risk of
selection for easy victimization need to convey their willingness to actively
resist and willingness to actively seek the help of the Institutional Fence.
They are now perceived as Hard Targets, the least desirable victims of Predators.</span></div>
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NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-34896262126823808912014-02-21T20:11:00.001-08:002014-02-28T09:39:14.705-08:00The Wrong Question<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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You can’t get the right answer from the wrong question. I heard that statement from Rory Miller.<br />
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In terms of a self-defense discussion, the wrong question usually beings as “I want to learn some moves”, or “please show us some moves”.<br />
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This question inevitably leads to the Self-Defense Instructor demonstrating a technique to be execute into a particular situation. The problem is that the Instructor is demonstrating the “move” that he or she would use, not a move that most other people could emulate without physical, emotional, and spiritual training, the judgment of when the “move” is appropriate for the situation, and the successive actions necessary in the likely event that the first “move” fails.<br />
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The Instructor, by the very nature of his or her training and choice of self-defense profession is not comparable physically, mentally, and emotionally to the majority of the people seeking “moves’. Thus, the question needs to sound more like “Given my current lack of physical training and ability, my inhibitions from social conditioning, my emotionally fearful state, and my lack of clarity as to what would be actually happening, and my unwillingness to devote much time, energy, and resources to self-defense study, what is something I could reliable do in this [described] scenario?”<br />
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No longer is the quality of the answer dependent upon the Instructor’s own ability to execute. It is about the Student actually being able to perform the suggested “move” in a real life situation. The Instructor is now judged on how well the Student could perform the suggested 'move" regardless of the Instructor’s personal ability. The determining factor is the Student’s likelihood of success, not Instructor’s likelihood of success.<br />
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The problem with this more involved question is that the Student does not want to be informed of his or her limitations. He or she is unhappy to settle for a “move” that is so basic in nature that it can not even be described as a “move”.<br />
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For most beginning students with the limitations of mind, body, and spirit as noted above, the best “move” if physically attacked in an asocial predatory situation is to make as much noise as possible and move away from the attacker as best they can.” The “move” is to loudly move. Given that the classic “victim” is silent and frozen in fear, loudly moving is not a classic “victim response”.<br />
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This “move” is not what the Student is looking for because the Student is asking the wrong question. A more appropriate question would be to ask “Given my current mental, physical, and emotional abilities and limitations, what can I actively do to deter being assaulted in the first place?” This question does not get asked because most people think that self-defense begins with the physical assault, not well before it.<br />
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There is no sexiness and glory in deterrence. But understanding deterrence is a prerequisite to understanding what to do when deterrence is not enough.<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">“Don’t be a victim”
is classic self-defense advice. It is usually directed towards women. It tells women
to walk with confidence when out and about, to be aware of their surroundings,
etc. What is piece of advice fails to address is that the most likely
Casualties of Violence fall into two vastly different groups.<br />
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The first Group consists of people with multiple of the following Factors:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Members of this Group are statistically the most likely to
be assaulted or abused, usually by someone who they know. Demographically, this Group has
a high percentage of people with disabilities, homeless, runaways, young girls
and boys, teenage girls as well as other lower status social classes.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The next Group consists of people with multiple of the
following Factors:<br />
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Members of this Group are statistically most likely to
either die or be seriously injured by violence. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">To put it another way, the First Group has too much Yin, the
Second has too much Yang. What keeps most people out of the Casualties of
Violence Class is a balance between the opposing Factors. <br />
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Yes. I am saying that most people actually get it right when it comes to
avoiding being a casualty of violence.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Here is an example. Every year about 1.6 billion people ride
the NYC subway system. Using rough math, and assuming that each rider
encounters 100 people in close proximity on each ride, there are
106,000,000,000 human interactions. Out that number, there are around 3,000
felonies per year. That makes one serious crime per 35,333,330 interactions.
This number confirms that most people know how to avoid either engaging or
being victimized by violence in common everyday situations.<br />
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The risk of becoming a Casualty of Violence goes up dramatically for those with
the Factors previously described and when the situation falls out of the ordinary.</span></div>
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<span lang="en-US" style="language: en-US; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><em><strong>The Five Stages of Personal Security</strong></em> is a model that charts the evolution of a person in terms of self-defense effectiveness combined with peace of mind. Regardless of whether or not a person is actively involved in some type of self-defense training or education, he or she exists on some point within the Five Stages. <br /><br />It is important to keep in mind, that the path to maximum personal security is not simply a function of time and effort. A person can progress to a particular stage and not go any further. It is also possible to regress backwards along the path with time. All the stages are also governed by the<strong><em> Goldilocks Law of the Inverted U-Curve</em></strong>. That means that there is a Just-Right amount of time and magnitude of effort for each stage that is most beneficial for growth. Too Little of each stage can be as detrimental as Too Much. At the Downside of the Inverted-U, the slope points downward. That means that further progression along the curve creates a less beneficial result.<br /><br /> </span><span style="font-family: inherit;"><strong>DENIAL STAGE</strong><br /><br /> Those that are in the first stage are in DENIAL of the fact that they are prey. Every living being on this planet is prey to some other living being. Some beings may be more predator than prey, but all are prey in some form. Those that don’t consider themselves to be prey are in denial of the existence of real risk and danger in the world from other beings.<br /><br />A little denial is good. As human beings we can’t function in society if we constantly think about all the bad events that could transpire to ourselves and our loved ones. In order to drive a car safely and effectively, we cannot dwell on the prospect of dying in a fiery wreck at each moment. In reality, that horrible accident could happen to any of us, but it is unlikely on a statistical level. On the other hand, too much denial leads to taking unnecessary risks and ignoring basic safety precautions. These types of actions increase the likelihood of an accident. Thus lowering a person’s safe driving effectiveness.<br /><br /> Many people exist on the Downside of the Denial Inverted-U. They live their lives with the belief that nothing bad will happen to them. They create peace of mind by denial of risk and danger. They deny the fact that they are prey.<br /> <br />Too little denial makes it hard to function due to all your “concerns”. Too much denial makes you easy prey. You need a Just-Right amount of denial to be function smoothly a society that contains inherent risks.<br /><br /><strong>FEAR STAGE</strong><br /><br />The evolution of Denial is Fear. Once a person comes to realization that he or she is in fact, prey. It is natural to become afraid. In fact, in many ways, Denial is both a conscious and unconscious effort to avoid the stage of Fear. The Fear stage may last for many years. It many last so long that it is thought of as the accepted state of living. People in the Fear stage actively take safety precautions and use risk reduction strategies. These actions increase their self-defense effectiveness well beyond those in Denial.<br /><br /> But, many in the Fear stage progress to the Downside of the Fear Inverted-U, where their fearfulness inhibits their confidence and ability to handle situations. They are unassertive. They use submissiveness as the primary strategy for resolving conflict and confrontations. Their fear also greatly reduces their peace of mind. They have too much fear.<br /><br />Many people stuck in the Fear stage are paralyzed into passivity and inaction. They accept fear as a way of life. They don’t feel they have the power to change their situation. They limit themselves to worry and passive methods of risk reduction. Others in the Fear stage buy self-defense products and carry weapons they have no intention of using in an actual self-defense situation. But the presence of these weapons helps provide them with a feeling of “security”. They view personal safety a primary concern, yet they cannot bring themselves to actively address their fears with concrete actions.<br /><br />Too little fear makes you complacent to risk. Too much fear and you become either paranoid or overwhelmed. A Just-Right amount of fear encourages you keep safe.<br /><br /><strong>ANGER STAGE</strong></span></span><br />
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<a href="https://www.blogger.com/" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"></a><span lang="en-US" style="language: en-US; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: inherit;">The realization that one is prey combined with the stress of fear progresses forward to anger. The anger is necessary to provide the motivation to move beyond the Fear stage. A person dominated by fear is unlikely to have the mindset necessary to take definitive action.<br /><br />The Anger stage can manifest itself in many forms. A common form of Anger is protests and demands for “someone or some entity to do something about the problem”. People in the Anger stage actively support and want to see change. Crime needs to be reduced. Criminals need to be caught and punished. Men need to stop assaulting women. People have a “right” to be and feel safe in all situations. These are common ideals put forth by people in the Anger stage.<br /><br />Many in the Anger stage actively seek out means of creating personal protection. These means may involve seeking martial arts instruction, or obtaining a weapon such as a firearm, knife, pepper spray, etc. Those in the Anger stage are tired of the fear. They want to fight back against the “Bad Guys”. They want to protect themselves and their loved ones from the criminals of the world. Anger drives them to take action.<br /><br />Those that progress to the Downside of the Anger Inverted-U actively talk and write about how they will respond instantly with physical defense to any the perceived threat. Many see all threats as life and death situations. The rallying call of the Anger stage is “I would rather be judged by 12 then carried by six.” Many deep into in the Anger stage have no interest in learning about self-defense law. They see themselves as the Good Guys fighting back against the Bad Guy. Therefore, the law doesn’t apply to their situation.<br /><br />Anger is necessary to employ many basic methods of physical defense and execute the concept of “attacking the attacker”. Those with too little anger are usually not able to perform the actions required such as standing up to, injuring or stopping an attacker by any available means. They have too much fear and too little anger. But too much anger leads to over-kill. It leads to training in methods of domination and punishment as opposed to deterrence, de-escalation, escape and evasion.<br /><br />It is common for many self-defense practitioners to progress to the Anger stage and never evolve beyond it. The Anger stage can be deceptively empowering. Many in the Anger stage look at those in the Denial and Fear stage as weak and naïve. They see themselves as the knowledgeable and strong ones. They feel that with enough training and/or with the right weapons they will be able to stop the Bad Guy every time. They are unconcerned with thoughts of possible remorse, moral, and legal consequences from the use of extreme force.<br /><br />Too little anger and you usually don’t have the mindset to take action. Too much anger and you over-react and/or over-enforce situations creating backlashes. You become a danger to yourself. A Just-Right amount of anger provides you with the motivation you need to keep safe.<br /><br /><strong>SYNERGY STAGE</strong><br /><br />Those that have evolved through the previous stages arrive at the Synergy stage. It is here they start to understand that Denial, Fear, and Anger are intertwined and interdependent. A person doesn’t leave any stage completely behind. He or she brings some of that stage with him as he moves forward. A person in the Synergy stage has a Just-Right amount of Denial, Fear, and Anger as a foundation.<br /><br />In the beginning of the Synergy stage, people start to understand how all the concepts learned and skills acquired in the previous stages work together. They realize that the Five Stages of Personal Security is simply a model that helps them to create a framework for categorizing their emotions and charting their development. As the Synergy stage progresses, they learn to apply judgment to situations as opposed to reacting in a scripted pre-determined manner. They expand their knowledge and skills to new areas in order to deal with a wide variety of threats and scenarios. They understand the underlying principles and concepts that unify their various skills.<br /><br />The Synergy stage has the potential to last a long time. It is a time of maximum learning and accomplishment. It is more measured and paced then the previous stages. Much of the Synergy stage consists of applying what has been learned previously to an ongoing lifestyle. Risk reduction measures become as ordinary and unemotional as buckling a seat belt.<br /><br />Those that move too far to the Downside of the Synergy Inverted-U are never satisfied with what they understand and what they capable of performing. These people run the risk of becoming one-dimensional in their pursuit of more self-defense knowledge and ability. They miss out on the living the life they are trying to protect.<br /><br />Too little time and effort in the Synergy stage doesn’t provide enough development. Too much and the person sacrifices his or her other interests and pursuits. A Just-Right amount provides the greatest evolution and a balanced life.<br /><br /><strong>ACCEPT STAGE</strong><br /><br />The Accept stage marks the end of the constant evolution of Synergy. It is at this stage that the person is at peace with his or her knowledge and ability. She has truly acquired peace of mind. She is accepted the reality of risk and feels prepared to deal with it. But he also realizes that not all circumstances can be controlled. That there are always situations and events that no amount of preparation, skill, or knowledge can change the outcome.<br /><br />In this stage, the person has accepted that risk reduction and safety precautions are a part of life. They are the tradeoff cost of greater security. She has come to embrace her previous stages as part of her development. He no longer needs to use denial to ease function, fear to encourage safety, or anger to create motivation. She no longer needs the stead growth of Synergy. She feels secure.<br /><br />But the Accept too is stage is governed by the Goldilocks Law of the Inverted U-Curve. Too much acceptance leads back to the complacency of Denial.<br /><br />The Five Stages of Personal Security is a model that helps people reference their development in terms of ability to effectively manage conflict and also have peace of mind. It is not a science. No person actually exists as a point on the curve. The curve can be general or specific to certain situations. For example, someone could be in the Anger stage in terms of street harassment, while also be in the Denial stage for home invasion.</span></span><br />
<span lang="en-US" style="language: en-US; mso-ligatures: none;"><span style="font-family: inherit;"><br />The model is a one of the many guides which help people evolve towards great personal security.</span></span></div>
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It's not rocket science by any stretch. It is a simple concept. In many situations, after a certain point increasing the magnitude or intensity of a particular factor results in a negative decrease in the overall effect. But before the point, the increase corresponds to a positive increase in overall effect.<br />
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For example:<br />
Increasing the confidence of someone with low self-confidence creates a positive effect.<br />
Increasing the confidence to someone with lots of existing self-confidence creates the negative effect of over confidence.<br />
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Take in Too Little calories and you are skinny. Take in Too Much and you get fat. There is a Just-Right amount of caloric intake that helps you maintain your ideal weight.<br />
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There are so many examples of the Goldilocks Law that it is helpful to think of an example of what doesn't fall under the Law.<br />
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<em>Judgment and decision making skill and ability</em>, you really can't get too much of that.<br />
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<strong>Food for thought:</strong><br />
How many arguments and disagreements are the result of people viewing the situation from different sides of the Inverted U-Curve. In other words, people with seemingly opposing viewpoints may actually agree on the fundamental concept. But they may disagree on whether a certain (known, perceived, imagined) quantity of that concept is actually positive or negative.NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-4749843096566421192013-12-22T18:04:00.006-08:002014-01-11T08:10:49.762-08:00The Topography of Violence: You Need a Detailed Map to Navigate the Terrian<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The popularly held view of violence is that it occurs
between a Good Guy vs. a Bad Guy. This simplistic view of violence is appealing
to many people including my nine year old daughter. When watching a television
conflict she always wants to know who the Bad Guy is.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is easiest and most satisfying for her to
reduce all conflict to a battle of Good vs. Evil.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">This viewpoint is promoted by everyone from Hollywood, children’s
stories, the news media, to the Self-Defense Industry and the Sexual Violence Prevention
Industry. They spread the <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Keep it Simple Stupid</i></b> violence
description because it is an effective marketing strategy for selling products
and promoting self-serving agendas. Sell the Good Guys products to defend
against the Bad Guys. Donate money and/or support government funding and save
the Good Victims from the Evil Perpetrators. It works.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The reality is that violence is complicated. It is
multi-layered. It is multi-dimensional. There are multiple factors that
surround every incident of violence. There are many levels of violence. There
is low level violence, mid-level and high level violence. There is violence
that easily predicted and understood. There is logical violence. There is
violence that runs darker and deeper than most people can perceive or imagine.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Violence comes with consequences. Sometimes these
consequences are beneficial. Sometimes, they are not. Sometimes, Good Guys do
bad things. Sometimes, Good Guys attract violence. Sometimes, Good Guys
initiate violence. Sometimes, the violence is done in the name of Self-Defense,
sometimes it is not. Sometimes, the Bad Guys are really, really bad. Sometimes,
the Good Guys are not so good.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">When someone wants to learn self-defense. He or she
typically views himself as the Good Guy in need of protection from the Bad Guy.
But what this person doesn’t really know is WHO or WHAT he or she needs
protection FROM. WHAT are the real dangers this person faces, as opposed to his
or her FEARS and beliefs? WHAT is this person willing and capable of doing to
defend him or herself? WHY is this person most likely to be involved in
violence and with WHO? WHAT are the most likely circumstances of the violence?</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">This person needs a map. Not just a simplistic one
dimensional map that tells her how to get “safely” from Point A to Point B.
But, a topographical map that lays out the entire landscape of violence with
its multiple layers, levels, twists and turns, dizzying heights and bottomless
holes. He needs to know that there are some places you just don’t go without
the necessary skills, experience, and mindset not common to ordinary man. That
means if the line between Point A and Point B takes you to a place you don’t belong,
take another route regardless of your right and desire to maintain the straight
and narrow.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">If you view a typical topographical map, you will notice
that the majority of the map is made up of wavy lines some distance apart.
The tight concentric circles that make up the steep hills and mountains are
less frequent. The wavy lines are the valleys, the rolling hills, the
low levels of violence. This is the lower level encountered by most people most
of the time. These are the common conflicts and confrontations that make up
human life. The tight circles are the high mountain of violence that should be
avoided by all but the most prepared and the most committed. The highly
prepared, the unwitting and the unlucky find themselves on these Mountains of
extreme violence.<br />
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What makes the Topography of Violence different than an ordinary landscape is
that the terrain is subject to rapid change. Most of the time, these changes
come with advance warnings, similar to tremors preceding an earthquake. But
sometimes, the changes come quickly and provide only moments to transform a
hill into a mountain. Individuals also have the power to influence their
surrounding terrain. What they say and do can whip up a steep hill or reduce a mountain
into a mole hill. A good Map clearly labels the impending
warning signs of terrain change.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">Danger occurs when you view a small section of the Map and
think that section represents the entire landscape or Topography of Violence.
You are prepared for the hills, but find yourself on a mountain. Your fear of
the high violence of the mountains inhibits you from adequately dealing with
the rolling hills and valleys of everyday conflict where your risk is much
lower. Your strategies and social conditioning for surviving and thriving in the low
lands may lead you to disaster in the highlands. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: inherit;">The journey of a thousand miles may begin with a single
step. But, the journey of self-defense and effective conflict management begins
with an accurate Map. One that allows you to view and negotiate the varied safe
and hostile terrain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A map you bought at
street corner dojo or on the internet that claims to guide you to safety with simplistic
solutions to stopping Bad Guys isn’t it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-581595584148785992013-11-08T13:46:00.003-08:002013-11-13T06:56:39.022-08:00On Techniques, Tactics, and Strategies<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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<strong><em><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Why effective Techniques and Tactics don’t necessarily
create effective Strategies<o:p></o:p></span></em></strong><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">There are basic TACTICS that people use in response to
confrontation and conflict. These responses are the sum of (1) their
instinctive behaviors, (2) behaviors that are learned and conditioned from
being a member of society, and (3) behaviors that are learned and
conditioned from specific training.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">When these Tactics are combined into a sequence they form an
overall STRATEGY. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The effectiveness of a Tactic may be separate from the
result of the Strategy. The effectiveness of a Strategy must take into consideration
the consequences and chances of failure (risk) and depends upon the context of
the situation.<br />
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A Strategy that works almost all of the time, but is subject to catastrophic
failure may not be as effective as a Strategy that works the majority of the
time, but the failures are of much less consequence. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For example, running across a busy street is an effective
Tactic for getting to the other side. It is quicker and more direct than going
to a foot bridge or crosswalk. But as an ongoing Strategy, it is not effective
due to the high negative consequences of being struck by a car. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">On the other hand, if you are being chased by a serial
killer, you most likely will choose the running across Tactic over searching
for a pedestrian crossing Tactic. The rational is that the risk of being caught
by the serial killer out weights the risk of being struck by a car.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus, the Running Strategy for escape is more effective than
the Cross-walk Strategy. Therefore, effective Tactics don’t necessarily make
for effective Strategies and vice-versa. It all depends upon the context of the
situation. Successive Tactics form the building blocks of a complex Strategy.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">TECHNIQUES are the steps that create the Tactics. In the
prior example. The technique of darting across the street in a manner that
allows for high visibility and quick directional changes is more effective than
a head down flat out sprint. Darting is a technique that could be
instinctual, or it could be environmentally learned or formally trained. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">To summarize: Techniques make up Tactics which make up
Strategies. The effectiveness of a Strategy is both dependent and independent
of the effectiveness of the underlying Tactics and Techniques. Generally
speaking, ineffective Techniques will lead to ineffective Tactics which create
ineffective Strategies. But effective Techniques and Tactics don’t necessarily
create an effective Strategy if the associated risk is too high. The associated
risk depends upon the context of the situation.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">Techniques + Technical Context create Tactics<br />Tactics + Tactical Context create Simple Strategies<br />Simple Strategies + Strategic Context create Comprehensive Strategies</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Conclusion: Your well trained knockout punch Technique may
build a poor self-defense Strategy. Your Tactic of brandishing a deadly weapon
may also diminish your self-defense Strategy in certain situations. Your habit
of submitting to confrontations may inhibit your self-defense
Strategy. On the other hand, your Tactic of quickly Mitigating mistakes and
transitioning to different Tactics may dramatically increase the overall
effectiveness of your self-defense Strategy. It all depends upon the context of
the situation.</span><br />
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NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-59567411908615262722013-10-21T16:20:00.001-07:002013-10-21T16:24:06.826-07:00The Victim Blaming Accusation Lobby <br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The <em>Victim
Blaming Accusation Lobby</em> has taken a worthwhile cause and morphed it into an
extremist movement designed to silence and discredit all those that disagree
with their point of view.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The
worthwhile cause is <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">victims of sexual
assault should not be blamed by society for what transpired. They should not
subject themselves to harmful self-blame</i>. <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">The blame should rest on the perpetrators of sexual assault.</i> Unfortunately,
this righteous cause has become dominated by the extremists I dub as the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Victim Blaming Accusation Lobby</i> (ABAL).
The ABAL accuses anyone who takes into consideration <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Factors</i></b> related to the
victim of sexual assault as</span><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"> “blaming the victim”.<br /><o:p></o:p></span></i></b><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The ABAL uses
flawed logical arguments to support its accusations. A popular strategy goes as
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states that “<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">a certain Victim Factor increases
the odds of sexual assault”</i>, the ABAL swings into action using the
following strategy. The phrase <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Factor increases the odds</i></b> is changed
to<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"> <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Factor</b></i><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"> <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">causes</i></b>.
Since, the reference relates to the Victim’s behavior or traits. The Accused person’s
original sentence is translated to “<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Victim
Factor causes sexual assault”</i>. </span><br />
<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;"><o:p><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span></o:p></i><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The changed
sentence creates the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Victim Blaming Accusation</i>.
Next, the Factor is declared to be invalid because not having the Factor doesn’t
prevent sexual assault. For example, since being sober does not prevent sexual
assault, then being drunk does not increase the odds of sexual assault. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The argument
is flawed in the same way as stating that <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">“since
not smoking doesn’t prevent lung cancer, then smoking does not increase the
odds of lung cancer.” </i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The final logical
proof is that since the perpetrator is to blame, nothing the victim did could
have done caused the assault. Therefore, the Factor is declared invalid. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This
methodology allows all Factors to be categorically denied without any
investigation into the actual validity of the Factor.<br />
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The ABAL labels the Accused Person as a Victim-Blamer and asks the inevitable
question of <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">“Why is the Accused blaming the
Victims as opposed to blaming the Perpetrators?”<o:p></o:p></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Here are more
flawed logical arguments used by the ABAL to discredit others with a different
point of view.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">1. Since no method works every time to prevent rape, no methods work to prevent rape.<br /><br />2. Some victims could do nothing to prevent being raped, therefore all victims could do nothing to prevent being raped.<br /><br />3. Examining the pre-assault behavior of the victim means NOT examining the behavior of the perpetrator.<br /><br />4. Trying to change the pre-assault behavior of potential victims means NOT trying to change the behavior or perpetrators.<br /><br />5. Focusing on certain pre-assault behaviors of some victims, means focusing on the pre-assault behavior of all victims.<br /><br />6. Saying the victim has some responsibility is the same as saying that the perpetrator has no responsibility.<br /><br />7. Since men don’t engage in rape risk reduction practices, women should not have to either.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The problem
with the VBAL is that its mass accusations of Victim-Blaming results in alienating
people and organizations who have a genuine interest in reducing the rate of
sexual assault. It stifles all dialog and discussion that doesn’t adhere
strictly to the VBAL Point of View.<br />
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The VBAL obsession with the concept of blame has made blame the central issue
as opposed to making reducing the rate of sexual assault the central issue.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-6197529292539416382013-10-13T09:16:00.004-07:002013-10-13T11:05:31.501-07:00How Slippery Slope Logic Reveals that Feminists are Really Victim-Blamers<br />
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and sooner or later you will be hit with the <em>Slippery Slope Logic </em>argument or accusation. It goes something like this: <br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>You </strong>– “<em>People who are drunk are more likely to be victimized
by crime</em>.”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><u>Opponent</u> - “<em>You are blaming the Victim</em>.”<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><strong>You</strong> – “<em>No. I said that a person who has certain Factors is at higher risk of being
victimized.”</em>
<u>Opponent</u><em> – “You are a Victim-Blamer."</em><br />
<strong>You</strong> - “<em>No, I am not.”</em><br />
<u>Opponent</u> – <em>“Yes, you are!”</em>
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the discussion is likely to spiral into an argument with no resolution.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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</span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Many people think A. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Many people who think A, think B. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Many
people who think B, think C. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Many people who think C, think
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Thus, many people who think A, think D.<br />
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It “seems” logical. Thinking A leads to thinking D. Here’s
the problem. Let’s say 40% or people is “many” people.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">40% of A becomes B. 40% of B becomes C. 40% of C becomes D,
so 40% of A becomes D. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">WRONG!!! Actually, 6.4% of A become D. We could think of
6.4% as actually being <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">few.</i>
Therefore, in reality, all else being equal, <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">few</i></b> people who think A, think D. The real problem with these arguments is the other underlying
assumption that “all else being equal” is rarely true.<br />
<br />
<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Slippery Slope Logic</i> also shows how <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">some</i></b>
becomes <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">many </i></b>which becomes <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">most</i></b> which becomes <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">all</i></b>
as in labeling and stereotyping phrases such as “<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Men do this, or Women think that”.</i><o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Let’s take a look at the <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Victim-Blaming</i></b> argument
used against many self-defense instructors.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Many self-defense instructors think that there
are actions people can take to lower their risk of being victimized by crime.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Thinking someone can do something to lower risk
means thinking he or she has some control over what happens or had happened.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Having some control means having some
responsibility<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Having responsibility means you have fault for
what happens.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.75in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">5.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Therefore, self-defense instructors blame crime
victims.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">6.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Self-defense instructors are Victim-Blamers.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">This type of logical is very effective because each step in
the process seems to make “sense” if all else is equal. But remember, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">all else is rarely equal.<o:p></o:p></i></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">More Slippery Slope Logic:<br />
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1. Victims don’t want to be victimized by crime. <o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">2. Not wanting it means not inviting
it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">3. Not inviting it means not
doing anything to attract it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">4. Not attracting it mean no
responsibility.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">5. No responsibility means no
control.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">6. No control means no power.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">7. No power means there was nothing
the Victim could do to alter what happen to him/her.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">8. Thus, anything that suggests
anything to the contrary is Victim Blaming.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Are Feminists really Victim
Blamers?<br />
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1. Many Feminists think men and women are equals.<o:p></o:p></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">2. Thinking
men and women are equal means thinking that women are as capable and powerful
as men.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">3. Being
capable and powerful gives a woman control over her life.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">4. Having
control over her life means she can alter events.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">5. Having the
ability to alter events mean having responsibility.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">6. Having
responsibility means having fault for what happens.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">7. Therefore,
women who are victimized are to blame for what happens to them.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Slippery Slope Logic</i> tells us that Feminists are Victim Blamers.
Self-Defense instructors are Victim Blamers. The problem with labeling all
these people as Victim Blamers is it puts them in the same category as the true
Victim-Blamers. A true Victim-Blamer thinks “that woman deserved to be raped
because she wore that dress”. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Victim-Blaming does exist. It
is a real problem that needs to be addressed. It needs to be solved. But mass accusations
of Victim-Blaming creates a backlash. It creates confusion. It diverts resources
away from solving the real problem. Problem solving requires looking deeply
into all the sources of the problem, not just cherry picking the sources that
meet the requirements of promoting a particular agenda.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<o:p><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">FOR THE RECORD: I do not think that Feminists or Self-defense Instructors are Victim-Blamers. I used them as examples of the fallacy of<em> Slippery Slope Logic.</em></span></o:p></div>
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NOT-ME!™http://www.blogger.com/profile/12457623348971020831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1602783374909132855.post-39297123948580496852013-10-10T08:42:00.004-07:002013-10-17T06:22:05.186-07:00Victim Factoring is Not Victim Blaming<br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Putting the blame on victims of a crime increases the
psychological trauma associated with the crimes. It makes it less likely that the
victims will report crimes in the future.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If crimes are not reported, it is more difficult to punish the offenders.
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Perpetrators take less personal
responsibility for their actions if they can blame the victim, thus making it
more likely they will commit more crimes. Society feels less of a burden to expend
resources to prevent these crimes from happening if the victims brought the
crimes upon themselves.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The above arguments make logical sense. And if all crimes
were completely random, meaning that EVERYONE has the exact same chance of
being victimized by any particular crime, then anything statement that even
hinted of victim blaming or victim responsibility would be categorically wrong.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The problem is that all crimes are NOT completely random.
Some people have a greater chance of being victimized for crime than others. Having
a greater chance of being victimized of a crime doesn’t make it your fault. What
it means is that there are a number of Individual Factors that added together have
the effect of raising or lowering your chances of being victimized by any
particular crime. Some of these factors may be in your control, and some of
these factors maybe out of your control.<br />
<br />
If you would like to reduce your Personal Risk of being victimized by a crime,
then you have to account for the multiple Individual Factors which affect the likelihood
that you will be targeted for crime and how you will respond to such targeting.
If you would like to reduce Societal Risk, then a person’s Individual Factors
don’t matter. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Societal Risk is average
risk of being victimized. Since that risk is an average of all people (or a
certain defined class) in Society, individual actions have a negligible effect
on the average risk. <br />
<br />
It is the actions of the perpetrators of crime that has the greatest effect on
Societal Risk. All things being equal, more perpetrators create more crime. Fewer
perpetrators create less crime. But while Societal Risk may fluctuate by a few
percentage points, say for example 2% - 10%, Individual Risk may fluctuate from
less than 1% to 80% or higher. <br />
<br />
It is in the best interest of those that focus on Societal Risk to claim any
and all focus on Individual Risk is “Victim Blaming”. In the Societal Risk
Model, individual actions are not relevant and are both a distraction and detriment
to lowering Societal Risk. Therefore, any discussion of Individual Factors must be
silenced by calling it “Victim Blaming”. </span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The problem is that what is good for Society is not necessarily
good for the Individual and vice-versa. For example, if you are a woman and you
don’t want to be sexually assaulted, the Societal Risk Model states that there
is nothing you can do to lower your individual risk of sexual assault. The Power
is in the hands of the perpetrators. Power and Blame are shown to go hand in
hand. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Since you have no Power, you have
no Blame. You have no Blame since you had no Power. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Since victims have no power, it is up to society
to lower Societal Risk by focusing on perpetrators. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The Societal Risk Model has little to offer the individual
who would like to lower his or her Individual Risk of being victimized. In
fact, it discourages attempts to lower Individual Risk by labeling it “Victim
Blaming”. Lowering Individual Risk requires examining all the Individual
Factors that when taken as a whole add or subtract to a person’s risk of being
victimized by a crime.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">For example, some Individual Factors that raise the odds of
being sexually assaulted are:</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
<!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Calibri; mso-bidi-theme-font: minor-latin;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font-size-adjust: none; font-stretch: normal; font: 7pt/normal "Times New Roman";">
</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being female.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Having a disability.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being an adolescent.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being drunk or under the influence of drugs.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being around people who are drunk or under the
influence of drugs.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being homeless.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being willing or able to set clear personal
boundaries.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt 0.5in; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; text-indent: -0.25in;">
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being willing or able to be verbally
assertive.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being easily intimidated.</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Having low self-worth.</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being in a volatile relationship.</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being in prison.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being around violent people.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Working in the sex industry.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Believing that “it” can’t happen to me.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Feeling as if you have no power to alter the
outcome of events.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">17. Believing that Society is primarily responsible for your personal safety.</span><br />
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<span style="font-family: Arial;">18. Being perceived as a someone will not report a violation.</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->The list goes on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">And here are some Individual Factors that decrease your odds
of being sexually assaulted:</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being male.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not having a disability.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being middle aged.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being drunk or under the influence of drugs.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being around people who are drunk or under
the influence of drugs.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Having a secure home.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being willing and able to set clear personal
boundaries.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Being willing and able to be verbally assertive.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being easily intimidated.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Having high self-worth.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being in a volatile relationship.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being in prison.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not being around violent people.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not working in the sex industry.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not believing that “it” can’t happen to me.</span></div>
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->Not feeling as if you have no power to alter the
outcome of events.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">17. Believing that you are primarily responsible for your own personal safety.</span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial;">18. Being perceived as someone who will report a violation.</span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]-->The list goes on.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">The above list of individual factors is not complete. It
varies from crime to crime. It varies from place to place, from culture to culture. The underlying point is that Victim Factoring is
NOT Victim Blaming. It is a specific methodology designed to lower an
individual’s risk of being victimized by crime by examining all the factors
involved. </span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">Victim Factoring shows that an individual has some power to lower his
or her Individual Risk of being victimized. It also shows that certain Factors
are out of the person’s control. <strong><em>Sometimes, some Factors can be controlled, other times they can't</em></strong>. But what Victim Factoring does not do is to assign
“blame” to the victim. Victim Blaming is a construct of the Societal Risk Model
that while illuminating many ills and bias in society, is many times used as a
tool to silence any discussion or focus on lowering Individual Risk.</span></div>
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<br />This Diagram brings together several of my models which are all designed to help to provide a framework for self-defense strategies and to organize information.<br /><br />This Diagram differs from typical self-defense thinking because it considers all actions to be a form of "Boundary Setting". It is not physical self-defense centric as are most models. It also takes into consideration that the influence of the Institutional Fence plays an important role in self-defense and conflict management.<br />
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All self-defense methodologies are systems that are intended to "solve your threat problem". Lots of these systems are <em>systemically flawed</em>, but they still work in <em><strong>many</strong></em> situations. The key word here is <em><strong>many</strong></em>. <br />
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For example, ignoring all threats and/or denying the existence of danger is a methodology many people practice. And for a percentage of them, this method works. They live and die and they are never assaulted or victims of crime. This method is systemically flawed, yet it still works for many people.<br />
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But what is more common is for students to become believers in a system that is systemically flawed. Despite this flaw, this system will "work" in certain circumstances. Three Mile Island had a systemic safety flaw, yet for many years this flaw did not stop it's ability to generate energy. The circumstances that expose a flaw may never arise. Thus, providing false evidence that the system is in fact "flawless".<br />
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A systemic flaw in many self-defense systems (particularly for women) is that they provide the student with a sense of having the ability to handle any and all physical threats with physical "fighting" techniques. As a result, this person projects a real sense of confidence and employs boundary setting that actually deters asocial predatory assailants looking for week and submissive victims. The student's fighting ability maybe an illusion, but the ensuing confidence and resulting deterrence is real. <br />
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Therefore, a systemically flawed self-defense still "works" in the same way Three Mile Island worked fine for many years. My question for self-defense instructors is "Are you introducing a systemic flaw into your system as a means to give your students the confidence to set personal boundaries and deter predators?" And if the answer is yes, "Shouldn't you figure out a better way?"<br />
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