THE MULTI DIMENSIONAL PARADIGMS OF SELF-DEFENSE
The Multi Dimensional Paradigms of Self-Defense is a model that describes a person’s overall view of the universe self-defense. Everyone’s viewpoint is different, but viewpoints can still be categorized in groups. The MDP model helps explain the basic differences in viewpoints. It provides people a framework to expand and evolve their self-defense paradigm into one with a more comprehensive viewpoint.
Boundary Setting is the Foundation of Civilization and Individual Success
Boundary Setting is fundamental for human success both on an individual and societal level. Societies that effectively use Boundary Setting create progress and advance civilization (think of Rome). They are able to build upon ideas and inventions. Societies with ineffective Boundary Setting descend into chaos and mayhem (think of barbarians). Individuals that utilize effective Boundary Setting in their private and public relationships live secure and productive lives. Those that are unable to effectively set boundaries endure lives of insecurity and constant threat of victimization.
Boundary Setting is central to human development and unfortunately most people are unaware of how it functions. In fact, when asked about Boundary Setting the most common response is that it “has something to do with personal space”, but that is about as deep as it gets.
Boundary Setting is based on the three inter-related concepts of Respect, Communication, and Enforcement. Boundary Setting begins with the establishment of rules. Rules are basically laws and regulations that govern and outline acceptable human behavior. Boundaries are Rules. These Rules can pertain to society as a whole. They can also pertain to the individual in the form of his or her view of acceptable personal behavior. In fact, every entity and organization in society has its own set of Rules that limit and control behaviors. Without these Rules, there is no order. There is confusion. There are misunderstandings and more. Progress is stymied.
It is not enough for the rules to be created. The rules must be communicated to everyone in society. In terms of the individual, the rules must be clear to those who interact with him or her. Clear communication of the rules is an essential part of effective Boundary Setting. The rules must be clearly communicated in order to avoid violations that are the result of a misunderstanding of the rules.
When the rules are understood, willful violations are the result of a lack of respect for the rules. Following the rules is a sign of Respect for the rules. Violations signify disrespect for the rules. Civilized societies are based on the majority of people having respect for the rules. Respect for the rules is also defined as the Public Trust, when the members of society have faith and trust in the societal institutions and government. When a personal boundary of an individual is violated, if that boundary was clearly communicated, the violation is a sign of lack of respect for the person and his or her boundaries.
A willful violation of the rules must be meet with appropriate Enforcement of the rules. Enforcement is designed to create Respect for the rules. Enforcement must be Just-Right in order to create Respect. When the rules are Under-Enforced, the result is contempt for the rules. Under-Enforcement is an action that is not enough (too little) to create Respect for the rules. Societies that create laws but don’t enforce them create contempt. Individuals that don’t enforce violations of their personal boundaries create contempt for themselves. Contempt is a destroyer of Respect.
When violations of the rules are met with Over-Enforcement, a Backlash against the rules is created. Over-Enforcement is a response that is too harsh (or perceived to be) in relation to the violation. When governments over-enforce the rules, they risk inciting a rebellion. When individuals over-enforce their boundaries they risk escalating the situation.
Clear Communication helps reduce the risk of Over-Enforcement. If someone violates the rules due to a misunderstanding of the rules, it is likely that he or she will view most enforcement responses as too harsh. Thus creating a potential for a Backlash. This is commonly seen in terms of violations of personal boundaries (space) that were not perceived to be a violation by the violator. But were viewed as an intentional violation by violated. The result maybe an upward spiral of perceived over-enforcements and backlashes that escalates a minor intrusion into a major confrontation.
On the other hand, an intentional violator may use the pretext of misunderstanding as a strategy to violate societal and personal boundaries. Their response to any type of enforcement is too claim a lack of understanding as opposed to a willful lack of respect for the rules. This ploy is highly successful against individuals that don’t clearly communicate their boundaries.
It is only when the enforcement response is Just-Right or perceived to be appropriate for the violation that Respect will be created. This is the rational about creating “respect for the rule of law” through the use of the court system. A punishment, fine, or a consequence is a form of enforcement.
Boundary Setting is a continual process. It can be done before, during, or after a violation. Prior to a violation, Boundary Setting is a form of prevention. During a violation, Boundary Setting is a type of intervention. The Use of Force as a means to limit and control unwanted behavior is Boundary Setting. Responding to a violation after is has occurred is also Boundary Setting. In this case, the Boundary Setting is typically some sort of punishment for the violation.
Boundary Setting relies on the inter-action of Respect, Communication, and Enforcement to create secure boundaries by limiting and controlling behavior. Boundaries are the rules of behavior. Boundary Setting is both communicating and enforcing those rules. Secure boundaries enable societies and individuals to systemically create environments of respect and to reduce violations. Respectful environments are fundamental for increasing growth, creativity, trust, and human progress.
Three Types of Learning – Which One Do You Use?
There are three distinct categories of learning: Vertical Learning, Horizontal Learning, and Connective Learning.
Vertical Learning is the process of learning in a step by
step linear fashion. You begin with the basics and build on the basics with
successively more complicated concepts, skills, tasks, etc. Learning math is an
example of this process. Additional and subtraction leads to algebra with leads
to calculus, and so on. Vertical Learning is typical in the martial arts where
basic skills are taught to beginning students and more advanced skills are
taught to students that have mastered the basics. Colored belts that designate
rank is typically a mark of Vertical Learning.
Step 1 -> Step 2 -> Step 3 -> Step 4
Horizontal Learning is the process of learning additional
concepts, skills, tasks, etc. that are independent of prior learning. Using
math again, learning geometry is separate from learning statistics. One area
does not necessarily build upon the other. In the martial arts, Horizontal Learning
is seen by successive learning of different unrelated styles of martial arts.
The person who has a belts in Karate, BJJ, Aikido, and Tai Chi is using
Horizontal Learning.
Subject A + Subject B + Subject C + Subject D
The third method is Connective Learning. Connective Learning
is the process of integrating and networking concepts, skills, tasks, etc.
together to achieve understanding. Connective Learning is about building the understanding
of the relationships between different concepts, skills, and tasks. The math
example is seeing the relation of the common principles between geometry,
statistics, and calculus. The martial artist that is able to relate the
outwardly differing elements of various styles together to create unifying
principles is using Connective Learning process.
Intelligence is defined as the ability to acquire and apply
knowledge and skills. Acquiring and applying is a form processing. Therefore,
intelligence is the ability to process knowledge and skills. The brain is the
body’s central processor. It uses an estimated 100 billion brain cells that
each hold bits of information and communicate with each other to store
information, knowledge, and execute tasks. The more efficiently these cells
communicate (integrate/network) with each other the greater the processing
power (intelligence).
Now imagine that Step 1, Step 2, Step 3, Step 4, Subject A,
Subject B, Subject C, Subject D are all “bits of information” stored in Cells.
Connective Learning is the process of interconnecting (integrating) these Cells
together as efficiency as possible. If each connection is represented by a
line, Vertical Learning uses three lines to connect four Steps. Horizontal
Learning uses three lines to connect four Subjects. But Connective Learning is
the process of developing the permutations (relationships, integrations,
connectivity) between these Cells. How many different permutations can come
from 8 different Cells? The answer is 40,320! Therefore, effective Connective
Learning requires highlighting the “best” permutations.
The teaching of Connective Learning begins after the student
has acquired some basic “intelligence” from either Vertical Learning or
Horizontal Learning. At that point, the student needs to understand that he or
she is now developing connectivity as opposed to either a more complex skill or
an additional skill. Therefore, a key part of the Connective Learning process
is the basic understanding of these three types of learning.
Temporary Othering – A Tool for Self-Defense
The latest mass killing in the US has created quite a stir
of Othering. It began with a socially outcast vengeful young man with pent-up
frustration who blames others for his
unhappiness. To many in the US, he was a “Nut Job”. To many people outside the
US, he was another “American Nut Job”. To some anti-gun activists, he was
another “Mass Murdering Gun Owner”. To some pro-gun people, he was just a “Bad
Guy with a Gun”. To some women, he was a Misogynist. To other women, he was another
‘Man’ doing what men do.
Depending upon which particular agenda you would like to promote,
the labeling of the killer as a ‘this’ or a ‘that’ is the beginning of a
logical sounding, but essentially emotional thinking Othering based argument.
The killer used Othering to a large degree. Othering was the
justification for his killing spree. They had Othered him, so now he was going
to Other them in return. And assuming the news stories are correct, Othering
was the tool that facillitated the killing of his three roommates. Apparently,
he hit them on the back of the head with a hammer and slit their throats.
Othering is a highly effective tool for getting the job
done. If your primary goal is to kill as efficiently as possible, there is no
need for engaging your target as a human being with confrontation, anger, and a
frontal attack. Othering offers you the ability to slaughter your dehumanized
target without the interference of conscience and ethical considerations.
In terms of self-defense, it is important to realize that if
you have been Othered, then it’s time to throw the rules of social conflict out
the window. Most likely, your attacker isn’t going to provide you the warning
signs of anger and aggression. He or she may lure you, deceive you, and attack
you from behind with his or her weapon of choice.
Once you have been Othered, your practiced strategy of logically
or emotionally appealing to the other person’s humanity is no longer valid. To
him or her, you are no longer human. Therefore, you don’t qualify for the
status of negotiation.
You now are faced with engaging in your own form of Othering
– Temporary Othering for Self-Defense (TOSD). In its purest form, TOSD means
that you dispatch your attacker with the same cold blooded efficiency and
methods he would seek to use on you. You use deceit and overwhelming force to
disrupt your attacker, foil his plan, and disengage to safety.
The key concept is Temporary. Your Othering is limited to
the time necessary to get the job done. The time need for you to get away. Extended
Othering is likely to get you sent to jail when you go beyond what is
necessary. Othering provides tremendous power. It frees you from the bonds of
conscience and the constraints of socialization and ethical issues. It allows
you to perform actions that you would ordinarily never do, and therein lies its
power.
Temporary Othering for Self-Defense is rational. But
rationalized Othering is something else. The California killer rationalized and
justified his Othering. It enabled him to kill innocent young women he had
never met for simply being women. And in return, it enables the Othering and
labeling of the entire male gender as misogynists by those who seek to exploit
the dark power of Othering.Othering - The Root of Human Evil
What is the root of all human evil? Many claim it is money. But I think it is something else. A contagious behavior so insidious that effects all human beings to various degrees regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, religion, presence of disability or lack thereof, social class, education level, political affiliation, and more. This behavior can be seen in the highest levels of education and the lowest levels of ignorance. It is exhibited by social justice advocates and the “Oppressors” alike. It occurs in society’s elite as well as the downtrodden.
This behavior is infectious. It spreads from one person to another like a virus. It causes a person’s thinking brain to become dormant while the person’s emotions take over. It breeds a vicious self-reinforcing cycle of hate, discontent, anger, paranoia, insecurity, revenge, indignation, righteousness, contempt, and loathing. Many times this behavior is blatantly obvious. Other times it is hidden in intellectual discussions and writings of educated advocates of worthwhile causes.
This behavior is responsible for incalculable human suffering. In its most powerful form, it has caused the deaths of millions and individual acts of unspeakable cruelty. In its milder form it crops up all over the internet in blogs, posts, memes, and commentary. The majority of those who exhibit and spread the behavior are unaware of it and the effect it has on them. They don’t see how this behavior feeds on itself. They don’t know that when you put out a little, you get a lot back in return.
This behavior is “Othering”. Othering is mentally classifying “others” of some group to be fundamentally different than yourself. Othering denies the basic humanity of the “Othered”. Othering combines prejudice, bias, objectivism, and more into a toxic mental process and supersedes rational thinking and balanced judgment.
But the true danger of Othering comes from its appeal. It has the ability to make those who use it feel be good. It justifies their beliefs. It creates camaraderie. It solidifies bonds. Othering bypasses the “thinking brain” and speaks directly to the emotional brain, thus it makes it easier to get your opinion across to susceptible listeners. Othering allows you to skip the need to use time consuming accuracy, facts, and logical statements. You get your supporters to agree with you because it “feels” right to them.
Your supporters in turn, spread your Othering message. Those with opposite opinions, react emotionally to the Othering. Many of them will have their thinking brains become dormant as they formulate their own Othering based response. Othering begets more Othering creating a feedback loop of emotional thinking. Othering creates a backlash. No matter how worthy the cause, the use of Othering provides short term satisfaction and long term harm to both your cause and humanity.
Othering can be hard to spot. But once you understand the concept, you will start to see it in many places and forms. Overt prejudice is easy to identify as Othering. It is the Othering that is hidden in the writings of the “educated” that takes a little practice to recognize. The easiest method to find Othering involves the Word Replacement Test. For example, start by using two groups in history that have been historically Othered, Blacks and Jews.
Start the Word Replacement Test
“Not all men beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly men.”
Now, replace men with Jews.
“Not all Jews beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly Jews.”
Next, replace men with Blacks
“Not all Blacks beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly Black.”
End Test
It is easy to see that the above two word replaced sentences
employ prejudice. Therefore, the original sentence is the Othering of men.
Ironically, it came from a blog post protesting
gender based sexism.
But wait you say, the people who beat their partners ARE
men, everyone knows that. Thus, it can’t be Othering if it is true. Before
determining if the “science is settled” on that matter, please refer to these links:More than 40% of domestic violence victims are male, report reveals
Or this book:
Woman-to-Woman
Sexual Violence: Does She Call It Rape?
What we actually know is the many “Humans beat their partners.” This sentence doesn’t involve Othering
and opens the door to trying to determine why humans engage in this unwanted behavior.
On the other hand, “Not
all men beat their partners, but people who beat their partners are mostly
men.”, this statement is designed to Other men. It is not intended to open
the door to further intellectual discussion
on the subject. In fact, it is intended
to silence it or create an emotional response. Understanding why some women
beat their partners would provide more information as to why some men beat
their partners because men and women are both human beings with more
similarities than differences. Focusing only on men provides less information.
Othering is designed to limit information and promote emotion.
The method to combat the evil of Othering in all its forms
is to first be able to identify it. Next, it must be treated as both contagious
and a contamination. That requires quarantining the piece and removing the
voice of those that Other from spreading the behavior. Once you spot Othering in a post, writing,
article, or speech, the chances are that Othering has inflected the entire
piece. Othering is like a cockroach, if you see one, you know there are many
more hidden in the shadows.
The antidote to Othering is to recognize the essential human
nature of all people. Those that Other should not be Othered either. Most of
them, truly believe they are helping their cause. They see themselves as
passionate promoters and activists. Some consider themselves so oppressed that
“the ends justifies the means” no matter what.
In my opinion, Othering is the root of human evil. Due to
the harm Othering has caused throughout history, the use of widespread Othering is not
justified no matter how righteous the cause. Those that knowingly Other are
short sighted and destructive to humanity at large. Those that do it
unknowingly need to be educated on the error of their ways before it’ too late.
Hyper-Advocates and Two Types of Problem Solving Methodologies
There are many ways in which people try to solve problems in their lives and in the world. But, there are two widely used methods that take completely opposite approaches. The method used is usually a function of the person’s Locus of Control.
Internal Locus
Problem Solving (ILPS)- Someone with an Internal Locus of Control sees the
solution to the problem stemming from his (or her) own actions. He has the
power to change himself. He uses the change within himself to solve his
problem(s). In terms of personal safety, self-defense education and training is
an example of Internal Locus Problem Solving. The solution comes from within.
This method is also known as Bottom
Up problem solving.
External Locus
Problem Solving (ELPS) – Someone with an External Locus of Control sees the
solution to the problem stemming from the actions of others. They see the
problem on a more global scale. The problem stems from the environment. Therefore,
the solution to solving the problem comes from changing the environment. In
terms of personal safety, self-defense is not the solution. Reducing criminal
behavior is the solution. This method is also known as Top Down problem solving.
Theoretically, these two methods should be complimentary.
They should work together solving the problem from both ends. Unfortunately, in
the real world of ideology and advocates, many times proponents of these
methodologies spend a tremendous amount of time and resources disparaging the
other methodology as being ineffective.
The basic thought process behind ILPS, is that social
problems can be solved by the sum of the unique actions of individuals. Social
change occurs when a critical mass of individual behaviors change society, think
of drops in a bucket, a ripple in a pond, the butterfly’s wings,
etc.
Depending upon the practical problem at hand, this method
may or may not be effective. But, since the actions start with the individual,
there is less of chance for unintended large scale side-effects.
ELPS is a different matter. The goal is to start by changing
society. The thought process behind ELPS is that other people usually in the
form of government or social institutions, need to become involved (come to the
rescue). They have the power to effect change. In order to get these entities
involved, the problem must be seen as wide scale, and to be as threatening as
possible. The first step of ELPS is not accurately identifying and describing
the problem, it is to make the problem appear as large as possible in order to
get attention.
It is here that hyper-advocates using ELPS become part of
the problem they want to solve. Hyper-Advocates are unwilling to define the
limits (extent) of the problem. They promote the problem as being everywhere
and it occurs all the time. They use terms such as “men do this” or “women do
that” with the implication being that ALL
men to this, ALL the time or ALL
women to that, ALL the time.
What the Hyper-Advocates don’t understand is that if ALL
people do something, then it is ingrained human nature that is highly unlikely
to change. It is when SOME people do something and others don’t do it, that
there is hope to change behaviors.
In order to draw outside attention, Hyper-Advocates do not
want to promote an accurate description of the problem. They want to promote an
inflated view of the problem. They don’t want accurate studies. They want
inflated studies.
An effective method to inflate studies is to co-mingle
different data while making it appear as through the data is similar. For
example, “last year in Town X of 50,000
people, there were 1,000 murders and assaults”. That sounds like a
dangerous town. Call in the National Guard. But, what if there was only 1
murder, and 999 assaults which all came in the form of spitting? In this case,
the town doesn’t have a killing problem, it has a spitting problem.
The issue is that there are vastly different needs and
requirements when solving a town wide killing or spitting problem. If you
really want to solve a problem, you need to know exactly WHAT the problem is,
and WHO IS effected by the problem, and WHO is NOT effected. The more accurate
the information, the better. Accuracy provides data needed to solve the
problem. That is what epidemiologists
do.
For example, saying that Town X has a “Spit Culture” and
implying that everyone in Town X is a Spitter will not help solve the problem
if the majority of spitting assaults came from a few people who were serial
spitters, AND that many of the victims of these assaults had certain factors in
common, AND that the circumstances of spitting assaults also had certain
factors in common.Assume the majority of Town X consists of Non-Spitters. Town X does not have a Spit Culture. It has a culture where the majority Non-Spitters don’t know how to handle and control the behaviors of the minority Spitters. And the Hyper-Advocates keep clouding the issue by claiming that Town X has a “Murder and Spit Culture” in the hopes that some government entity will pay attention and come to the rescue of the town.
In addition, when someone tries to accurately assess the factors involved in the spitting problem, which includes examining factors specific to the victim and his or her behavior, the Hyper-Advocates squash this study as “Victim Blaming” and label the person as a Murder and Spit Denier. These Hyper-Advocates have a very strong External Locust of Control. They fundamentally believe that other people’s actions and behaviors are the source of their problems. Thus, the only solution is for the others, not them, to change.
As a result of the activities of the Hyper-Advocates, nobody really knows what is going on. There is no accurate understanding of why the Serial Spitters spit and why the Non-Spitters don’t. But there are plenty of ideologically driven theories. There is minimal understanding as to why certain people seem to get assaulted why others do not. With little understanding and accurate data, problem solving methods are doomed to fail. The Hyper-Advocates in their attempt to show the problem is occurring everywhere, focus their attentions of Town Y and Town Z, labeling them also Murder and Spit Cultures.
While my example may involve some satire, the Internet has provided those who want to solve social problems with a means to band together and a delivery system for their methods. Those that combine ILPS with ELPS have the greatest ability to solve society’s problems. On the other hand, the Hyper-Advocates of ELPS are a huge part of the problem they claim to want to solve.
Self-Defense Competency: Environmental Knowledge, Rule Knowledge, and Domain Knowledge
Google the term “self defense” and there almost 10 million results. Millions of people expounding on different ideas of what constitutes self-defense. Google “self-defense competency” and the results drop down to a couple thousand.
What does it mean to be competent in self defense? It doesn’t mean that you are safe. You could safely lock yourself in your fortress-like home and still be incompetent in self-defense.
Self defense competency is described in many ways by different people. I define it as a competency in three separate, but inter-related and inter-dependent elements of Environmental Knowledge, Rule Knowledge, and Domain Knowledge.
Where:
1. Environmental Knowledge (EK) is understanding the general makeup of a location/area/place/environment. For example, what the people do, when they do it, who they do it with, why they do it, where they do it, and how they do it. Having EK means you see the environment as it truly exists, not as how you believe it to be. EK requires understanding basic human nature as well as social norms and cultural motivations. And how these desires and attitudes effect the inhabitant’s rules and behaviors. (See Marc MacYoung for the original deeper description of this concept)
2. Rule Knowledge (RK) is understanding “how things work” in the specified Environment. The Environment creates the Rules. All human societies, groups, organizations, tribes, families, etc have some form of Rules of Behavior. These rules are specific to the Environment, but underlying them are universal principles and concepts (that are not so hard to understand). It is not enough to know the environment, you also need to know how the rules guide behaviors, allow people to function/work, and to reward and punish behaviors. You need to know who implements/enforces the rules, what are the rules, how the rules are communicated, how the rules are enforced, how compliance/respect for the rules is shown. Understanding the “rules” of criminal behavior is essential to RK.
3. Domain Knowledge (DK) is having the knowledge and skills to deal with/operate in the specific Environment and to be capable of protecting yourself and others (within reason). It is here that understanding criminal behavior is critical. A major portion of DK is having both EK and RK. It takes EK to derive RK. It takes RK to develop the competency of DK. DK is what most people think of as “how to do self-defense”. What they don’t “see” is the underlying knowledge of when to do something, what to do, why to do it, where to do it, and against whom, or not against whom, and when it works, when it doesn’t, and what to do next.
The opposite of Self-Defense Competency is Self-Defense Incompetency. Since Self-Defense Competency requires having all three elements of EK and RK and DK, incompetency means lacking any one of the three. Most Self-Defense Incompetency stems from not having a complete understanding of Environmental Knowledge. This partial understanding leads to insufficient Rule Knowledge and incomplete or entirely defective Domain Knowledge.
Despite being the foundation of Self-Defense Competency, Environmental Knowledge frequently is assumed to be common knowledge. It is viewed as simply occurrences of Bad Guys assaulting Good Guys in some manner. Environmental Knowledge is also separate from “situational awareness”. It is not enough to simply be aware, you need to know what you are looking for, and what to be aware of.
The Two Kinds of “How”. Which One Do You Use?
The word “how” appears frequently in self-defense related
questions and answers as in
“How do I defend myself from X?” and “This is how you defend yourself from Y.”
“How do I defend myself from X?” and “This is how you defend yourself from Y.”
Typically, this “how” refers to some physical technique
someone can employ when being “attacked” in some manner. This is the “Simple How”. When the Simple How is used in questions, it
leads to simplistic answers.
The “Complex How” takes
into consideration that how is actually
a multi-faceted question that needs to take into consideration “who, what, when, where, and why”. For
example, how you effectively defend
yourself, requires the use of the Complex
How.
Who are you? What are your physical, mental, and emotional strengths and limitations?
Who is the other person? What are his or her physical, mental, and emotional strengths and limitations?
Who are you? What are your physical, mental, and emotional strengths and limitations?
Who is the other person? What are his or her physical, mental, and emotional strengths and limitations?
Who are you with?
Who else is involved? Who are your responsible for besides
yourself?
What are the
circumstances of the attack? What
are you in the process of doing? What is
your level of experience? ‘What are
some of your skills? What are your weaknesses? What options do you have? What
might have you done to provoke this attack? What might you have done to avoid it? What is the motivation level of the attacker? What is your motivation level to defend yourself? What type of weapons may be involved?
When is this “attack”
taking place? When will your
response make the situation better? When
will it make it worse? When will
your response get you into legal trouble? When will it be considered legally justified?
Where are you at
the time of this “attack”? Where is
a place of safety? Where are others
who could assist you? Where are
other potential assailants located? What
are the Rules of Behavior
specific to where you are located?
Why is this
person attacking you? What is his or
her motivation? What would be an
effective deterrent strategy? Why
might this strategy work? Why might
it not work?
The above questions are not a complete list. They
demonstrate the use of the Simple How
from the Complex How.
Which one do you usually use?
Male Privilege Fixation
Yesterday, I was in the middle of a crowded bike ride in New York City, I had just rode off a curb in order to get from the sidewalk to the street when my gears started to rattle. I quickly pulled over and inspected my gear wheel. Sure enough, part of the derailleur was sagging over the gears. As I peddled forward, the derailleur would rub against the gear teeth causing the problem.
As I was trying to determine how to solve this problem, my friend came over and asked me what was going on. I explained how I had gone off the curb and how the impact must have dislodged the derailleur from its correct position. The issue was that even though I knew what happened, I had no idea how to fix it. In truth, I am not a “gear head” and this repair was beyond my ability.
“Erik, what about the cracked plastic piece on the chain roller by the pedal?” my friend said. “No, that’s not the problem”, I responded”. “It’s the derailleur”. It was very clear to me what had caused the problem, I just didn’t know how to fix it.
My friend hands me his knife as says “Erik, cut that piece off”. I give him an annoyed look and took the knife. As I sawed away at the plastic, I was thinking how this cutting is a waste of time. I knew what the real problem was. Low and behold, once the broken plastic was removed, the problem was solved. I was completely and utterly wrong.
I had created an entire story my head about what had caused the problem. How going off the curb had dislodged the derailleur. And now it was rubbing on the gears. I could “see” it. I was both blind and resistant to new information. But my friend hadn’t observed me going off the curb. He came upon me on the side of the road. He had no theory as to what caused the problem. I was fixated on the derailleur. He wasn’t. He had a fresh set of eyes. My observation was hopelessly biased by my internal script of causation.
What are some other scripts of causation? How about “Male Privilege”. This is a central theory of how Male Privilege effect’s all men’s behavior.
Note that Male Privilege is seen to effect and influence ALL men, not just SOME men.
Here is an article forwarded to me by a female friend of mine. We were just having a discussion on how to deal with [some] men who don’t seem to get the hint that it is time from them to go away.
Stop Saying "I Have A Boyfriend"
Now, I agree with much of what this female author is saying. And I think it is very unfortunate that she has to deal with this issue. But, I want to focus on what she considers to be the root “cause” of the problem.
“Male privilege is “I have a boyfriend” being the only thing that can actually stop someone from hitting on you because they respect another male-bodied person more than they respect your rejection/lack of interest.”
According to the post author, the “cause” of the problem is Male Privilege. And the only reason why “I have a boyfriend" works is due to Male Privilege. Thus, Male Privilege is deemed to be as certain as the Law of Gravity. Its existence explains all men’s actions.
But how do Male Privilegists know what ALL men are thinking at ALL times? How are they able to determine how Male Privilege effects all men, especially given that most of them don’t live the lives of men? They see some men from their own prospective. Could it be that some women (and men) are fixated on blaming Male Privilege as being the cause of ALL men’s behaviors in relation to women?
Let's assume for a moment that there is some other force that directs some men's actions when dealing with women. Let’s call it Fear of Rejection. In this case, some men act in a manner designed reduce feeling the emotional pain of rejection. Instead of feeling the power and control of Male Privilege, they instead feel insecurity.
Therefore, when it appears they just have been, or are being, or are about to be rejected, they engage in a dysfunctional strategy to "save face". This strategy entails appearing to not really care about the woman, to treat her as an object, to dehumanize her, to engage in unwanted banter, to call her a lesbian, to argue, to ignore her boundaries, to threaten her. The man does everything he can to transform the rejection into something else. In his mind, he didn't care anyway. It was just a game. It's her problem. She's a bitch. All of these actions are designed to mask the fact that he has in fact been rejected.
To someone fixated on Male Privilege. The man’s behaviors can easily be explained as the result of Male Privilege. The problem is that the Male Privilege causation model leaves no room for any man to behave in a manner not consistent with its declarations. There is no male vulnerability or Fear of Rejection in the Male Privilege model. There is only actions resulting from male superiority, power, and control.
I am suggesting that SOME men behave in certain ways due to Male Privilege. And SOME men behave in certain ways due to Fear of Rejection. And SOME men behave in other ways due to other reasons. But, the belief that ALL men's actions at ALL times can be explained by Male Privilege is an example of fixation on an ideological theory of causation.
Why might the phrase "I have a boyfriend" work for deterring some men for reasons that have nothing to do with Male Privilege as outlined above? How about the simplicity of the fact that it provides a face saving exit? The man can tell himself that he hasn't been rejected after all. His ego remains intact. There has been no personal rejection. Or maybe, the man respects the woman. He realizes that she don't want to be romantically pursued and he drops the issue.
If someone, male or female, provides you with unwanted romantic attention, setting a firm boundary with clear communication, and escalating responses is an effective methodology. Saying you have a boyfriend when in fact you do not, is a lie, and as such is by definition not clear communication. It ingrains habits of non-assertiveness. The direct assertive response is most likely to be the most effective response in these situations.
The Violation Triangle
The Violation Triangle is a model that explains the creation and existence of human violations in society both on an individual basis and also on a systemic multi-incident basis. And it shows the steps necessary to reduce the violations.
The Violation Triangle utilizes the same three element concept of the Fire Triangle. In order to create and sustain fire, there must be three elements present: heat, fuel and air. The combination of these elements in sufficient quantities makes fire and keeps it going. Knowledge of the Fire Triangle is essential to devising the most effective strategy to extinguish a fire. Depending upon the circumstances, fire-fighters will attempt to remove one or more of these elements to put out the fire. For example, water reduces heat, foam takes away air, and creating a fire-break denies fuel.
Human violations between a Perpetrator (s) and Victim arise from the presence of three essential (I) Elements. (1) Significant INEQUALITY of Relative Power, Control, and Status (RPCS) between the parties. (2) The Victim is ISSOLATED from protective resources such as family, friends, and policing agents and institutions. (3) The Perpetrator has INTENT to harm, i.e. wants to do something that violates the Victim in some manner. These three elements are the essential ingredients that occur during a singular incident of violation. They occur during multiple incidents of violations among different people or for a single person at various times.
The greater the presence of these 3I Elements in society, the more likely that violations will occur. The greater magnitude of the 3I Elements, the greater the rate of violations. The Fire Triangle analogy is: the more people that store gasoline next to space heaters in ventilated basements, the greater the rate of house fires.
Therefore, the most effective means of lowering the overall rate of violations in society or the number of violations to any one individual requires a three pronged approach that addresses each of the 3I Elements.
INEQUALITY of RPCS comes in many forms. It could be the result of a disparity in physical power, strength, size, and ability between the parties. It could be created by use of a tool such as a weapon. It could be created by a tactical advantage such as multiple attackers or the use of surprise. Inequality also arises from social hierarchies and from personal relationships such as employer to employee, teacher to student, or care-giver to patient.
Groups of people with higher RPCS in society tend to treat the “lower” tier of people as less than equal or subhuman to some degree. This is the process of “Othering” that maintains strict social classes in society. Nationalism, sexism, racism, and ableism are all common forms of Othering.
On bottom tier of society are the lower RCPS groups such as people with developmental and physical disabilities, the homeless, the LGBT community, the poor, minorities, and in many cultures, women. These groups as a whole have less RPCS than the higher tier groups such as the wealthy, celebrities, athletes, business owners, politicians, law enforcement, military officers, professors, and so forth.
While there are always exceptions, and people who can be described by multiple classes, the general rule of division of RPCS by societal social class holds true. In addition, RPCS can also be temporary, and it can be increased or lowered on a situational level. It is also relative to the other person involved. A person with low RPCS in society may have greater RPCS than a person with very low RPCS, for example abled-bodied homeless man vs. disabled homeless woman.
ISOLATION also comes in multiple forms. In today’s modern world, all people are dependent upon the overall smooth functioning of society for survival. People depend upon each other for basic needs such as food, shelter, and security in some form or another. When someone is isolated from these protective resources they become vulnerable.
Generally, the primary level of protective resources comes from the inner circle of family and close friends. The secondary level is the authority figures, policing agents and institutions of society. These resources serve to protect individuals from would-be violators.
When the perpetrator is a family member or “friend”, not only is this primary means of protection unavailable for defense, this person has close access to his victim making it easier for him to create isolation. A violator that has isolated his selected lower RPCS victim from the protective intervention of others now has the unfettered ability to manipulate his victim as he chooses.
Isolation can take the form of emotional control as well as a physical separation. A victim that will not report a violation has been effectively isolated from the protective resources of society designed to punish violators. Violators will use fear, intimidation, guilt, and other coercive means to limit reporting.
INTENT is the most variable of the 3I Elements. It defines the perpetrator’s motivation or desire to commit a violating act. As with all humans, the perpetrator’s motivation is transitory. It is subject to change. The magnitude of a person’s intent is a function not only of the individual’s emotional drive and hard wiring, it is also effected by the circumstances of the situation, and influenced by cultural norms.
The quest to change the “sexually violating” intent of men is the focus of some feminist “Teach Men Not to Rape” campaigns. The theory is that with proper education and social pressure, men’s sexually aggressive bad INTENT will be reduced. Thus resulting in lower incidents of sexual assault in society.
INTENT is influenced in many ways. The concept behind societal enforcement and punishment is a direct attempt to lower bad intent by creating a deterrence to committing future violations. Enforcement can also come directly from the actions of an individual as he or she uses force to stop and punish violations. Throughout history physical pain has proven to be an effective method to change a person’s motivation.
Intent may also vary depending upon the parties involved. A perpetrator who may have a low threshold of intent may be deterred by effective boundary setting. In this case, the perpetrator is risk adverse and is only willing to assault the most hapless of victims, i.e. someone with much lower RPCS in an isolated setting.
Intent may also result from having an anti-social personality. As with the case with psychopaths, these individuals by definition due not conform to the norms of society. Anti-rape education will not lower the violating intent of these people. The combination of this type of person with high RPCS along with the multiple opportunities to isolate lower RPCS people usually results in serial victimizations.
The 3I Elements work together to create a perfect storm of violating synergy. Each Element also has the ability to effect the other Elements. In the same manner that “Absolute power corrupts absolutely”, so does having high RPCS raise some people’s degree of violating intent. Being isolated with a suitable victim may encourage a potential perpetrator’s violating intent, i.e. creating a crime of opportunity. Having high malicious intent and motivation is a factor that leads to higher RPCS.
Once the concepts of the Violation Triangle are understood, it becomes much easier to find strategies to defeat it. The Violation Triangle allows specific methods of violation prevention to be examined for logical truths and flaws. For example, some claim that binge drinking on college campuses increases the rate of male to female sexual assault. While other’s claim alcohol is not a factor. The Violation Triangle clarifies the issue.
Assume a college party held on school grounds that is well policed. All the party goers spend the entire night in the same large on room with the lights on and there are no isolated locations. In this case, regardless of how drunk the women get, and even with the presence of some men with “rapist” intent, the lack of opportunity to isolate victims from protective resources makes incidents of sexual assault unlikely.
Or assume, the local Anti-Sexual Violence against Women chapter holds an invitation only mixed gender sleep over with an open bar at local guest house. Regardless of how much the invitees drink, the lack of guests with “rapist” intent and the general parity of RPCS will eliminate the occurrence of a sexual assault.
On the other hand, assume the party is held at a local fraternity with numerous bedrooms, private areas and darkened corners without policing supervision. This fraternity houses several men with high RPCS, and these same men have sexually aggressive tendencies or outright violating intent. A woman who is drunk has effectively lowered her RPCS. She now has impaired judgment and decision making, a parallel to the impaired judgment and decision making of the highest category of sexual assault victims – the development disabled. The more of these drunken women at the party, the more likely one or more of them will be selectively isolated by a high RPCS man with bad intent. The likely result will be a sexual assault.
The Violation Triangle applies to not only sexual assault. It applies to bullying, abuse, harassment, dating and domestic violence, and more. The Violation Triangle is a tool to understand and evaluate how to prevent violations from occurring both on an individual level and also on a systemic multi-incident basis.
Making Sense of the Rape Culture Wars
If you have any interest or involvement in
the area of sexual assault prevention, most likely you have been exposed to the
raging ideological battles revolving around the existence or non-existence of
Rape Culture and its effect on the rate of rape and sexual assault in society.
Briefly, the concept behind Rape Culture
is that society’s systemic sexual objectification of women creates an environment
that both promotes male sexual aggression and condones sexual assault. These cultural
norms and attitudes of society effectively create more men with ‘bad intent’. Since
men are the primary perpetrators of sexual assault, more men with ‘bad intent’
leads to more incidents of sexual assault. Therefore, reducing the rate of
sexual assault in society requires changing society’s attitudes regarding the
objectification of women.
This approach is Macro or Top Down. It is
very appealing to many for its simplicity. It puts the blame for sexual assault
on men. Women are simply the victims with no agency to influence the outcome of
male sexual aggression.
On a theoretical level, Rape Culture makes
logical sense. The flaw in this explanation is that it is exclusionary and
simplistic. The overall problem of sexual assault in society is the aggregate
of multiple individual or micro incidents. Besides male perpetrators and female
victims, incidents include, but are not limited to:
1.
Sexual assault among the LGBT community.
2.
Sexual assault of people with disabilities.
3.
Sexual assault of children by both men and women.
4.
Sexual assault in the prison system.
The victims in these above four categories
are not sexually objectified by cultural norms. In fact, particularly with children
and people with disabilities, these victims are traditionally viewed as asexual
by society. Therefore, Rape Culture is exclusionary in that its explanation
excludes many victims of sexual assault.
Rape Culture is simplistic because it only
focuses on ‘Intent’ as the primary factor of sexual assault. There are also two
more factors present during incidents of sexual assault. They are Inequality of
Relative Power/Control/Status (RPCS) and the victim is Isolated from support
systems such as family, friends, bystanders, and protective agents and
institutions. These three factors occur in all categories of sexual assault
regardless of the gender of the perpetrator and victim.
These 3I’s of Intent, Inequality, and
Isolation are analogous to the Fire Triangle. It takes Fuel, Heat, and Air to
create and sustain fire. Fighting fire requires eliminating one or more of
these elements. Rape Culture focuses only on the element of male sexual Intent
and ignores the presence of Inequality and Isolation as additional elements
that allow for sexual assault.
The goal of society is to reduce the
overall incidents of sexual assault by all available means. That requires minimizing
both systemic Inequality and Isolation. Firefighters use all means available to
fight fires. They don’t promote and use exclusionary and simplistic tactics
that only focus on one type of fire with only one solution. They evaluate all
the elements on a case by case basis, and focus on the most appropriate
solution for the circumstances.
An opposing view to Rape Culture is that
incidents of sexual assault are the result of perpetrators that don’t conform
to the norms of society. Therefore, reducing sexual assault involves taking
into consideration all the factors involved including the victim’s
vulnerabilities and pre-assault behavior, not just the aggressor’s bad intent.
The extremists of the Rape Culture Wars
loudly denounce the opposing side’s view. A Rape Culturist sees any perspective
that doesn’t focus solely on the perpetrator as “Victim Blaming”. Those that don’t conform to the Rape
Culturist view are denounced as Victim Blamers and Rape Apologists. On the other hand, those that deny the
existence of Rape Culture, ignore the reality of ingrained societal beliefs and
institutions that don’t support victims of sexual assault and poorly enforce
violations. All of which leads to low levels of reporting and lack of
confidence in the system by victims.
Rape Culture doesn’t take into
consideration that systemic sexual assaults requires Inequality in the form of
the availability of disempowered potential victims who are targeted and
successfully victimized. The underlying belief of Rape Culture is that ALL
women are equal opportunity targets. And
simply because they are women, no matter what they do or how they behave, they
have no ability to effect the outcome of an encounter with any given male.
Therefore, ALL males are potential rapists. All men are in need anti-rape
education.
Rape Culture effectively creates two
uniform categories, vulnerable female victims and male perpetrators, where all
males have dominance over all females.
In such an environment, the arguments of Rape Culture make sense.
But in actuality, in the high sexual
assault environment of colleges and universities in the western world such a
division doesn’t exist. The majority of
men and women have equal Relative Power, Control, and Social status (RPCS). But
there also exist some High RPCS men and some High RPCS women, and some Low RPCS
men and some Low RPCS women. Rape Culture is describing what systemically
occurs when High RPCS men are combined with Low RPCS women (Inequality) and the
High RPCS male has Intent to violate and the Low RPCS female is Isolated from
protective resources.
Violations result from the 3I’s of
Inequality, Isolation, and Intent regardless of which gender is the High RPCS
and which gender is the Low RPCS individual.
A culture that:
1.
promotes Inequality by creating High RPCS and Low RPCS
individuals
2.
promotes and rewards the existence of violating Intent, and
3.
allows for Low RPCS individuals to be systemically Isolated
from and unsupported by institutional protections and enforcement by High RPCS
individuals,
is a Violating Culture. A Violating
Culture is a non-exclusionary and multifaceted explanation of systemic sexual
assault whereas Rape Culture is exclusionary and simplistic. Violations need
not be only sexual assault. They include bullying, abuse, sexual harassment,
dating and domestic violence, and more.
In terms of the systemic problem of sexual
assault on colleges. Any and all factors that contribute to greater Inequality,
Isolation, and Intent increases the overall rate of sexual assault.
Here are some examples:
1.
Actual gender inequality increases the rate of sexual
assault. But so does learned helplessness created by intimidated victims conforming
to the lowered expectations of gender equality.
2.
Consuming alcohol by a male increases the chance of his
committing a sexual assault if the alcohol gives him a feeling of greater RPCS
and less moral resistance to assaultive behavior.
3.
If consuming alcohol lowers a woman’s RPCS, it places her
in the victim pool of Low RPCS potential victims. The greater the size of the
victim pool, the greater the opportunity for sexual assault. Conversely, if drinking
makes her less likely to be intimidated and more willing to enforce her personal
boundaries, she is less likely to be sexually victimized in the most common fashion.
4.
Social rewarding and encouraging aggressive male sexual
behavior from individuals with High RPCS increases Intent and the rate of sexual
assault (i.e. certain athletes and popular Frat boys).
5.
Poorly communicating and enforcing the rules and laws of
behavior in regards to sexual consent by both victims and protective
institutions (college administrations, local law enforcement) increases the
rate of sexual assault.
6.
Disempowered bystanders who do not intervene to obvious
situations of assaultive behavior increase the opportunities for successful
sexual assault.
These are only some of the overall factors
involved.
The above list shows that most western college
campuses are indeed Violating Cultures. These Violating Cultures combine both the
elements of traditional Rape Culture and expanded factors (decried by Rape
Culturists as Victim Blaming) such as systemically (binge drinking is a
systemic problem) disempowered victims with minimal ability to deter assaults
through strong communication and enforcement of personal boundaries.
The solution to systemic violations lies
in tackling all the factors that increase the 3I’s of Inequality, Isolation,
and Intent on both a macro and micro level, not just the factors which conform
to an agenda driven ideology.
It requires a concerted effort to increase
respect for victims of sexual assault. Not only by society, but also by the potential
victims themselves so they do not fall into the Low RPCS victim pool. It
requires increasing respect for the Rules of Behavior through both clear
communication (consent education) of the Rules and appropriate enforcement of
the Rules by individuals and Institutions.
High RPCS individuals must learn to
respect both Low RPCS people and the Rules of Behavior. The overall effect of
increasing Respect, Communication, and Enforcement of the Rules will decrease
Inequality, lower the ability to create Isolation, and reduce Intent to do harm. Thereby decreasing the overall rate of sexual
assault and all other forms of unwanted behavior on college campuses and elsewhere
in society.
In summary, Rape Culture exists as a smaller
subset of the larger problem of a Violating Culture. Reducing Violating Cultures
effectively reduces Rape Cultures, but the reverse is not true.
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OTHERS
RAINN comments and recommendations to the White House Task Force to Protect Students from Sexual Assault.
How Not to Talk About a Culture of Sexual Assault
D.U.M.B.S. versus S.M.A.R.T.S.
Which type of self-defense training is best for you?
Type in “self-defense” in an internet search and you will receive a huge amount of hits. You will receive web links to all sorts of self-defense training systems. Upon reviewing these sites, you will notice that most make similar claims to be practical, realistic, and simple to learn and apply.
How do you decide which type of
self-defense training or system is best for you?
Self-defense that is taught (as
opposed to instinctive) means learning a “system”. The systems vary, but they can
be grouped by certain characteristics that they share in common. If you view
all the systems as a continuum. On one side is SMARTS and the opposite side is
DUMBS. Any particular system will fall somewhere within this continuum.
DUMBS stands for Dehumanize
– Universal – Mindless – Body-based- Simplistic
SMARTS stands for Smart – Mindful - Applicable – Reason-based – Tactics – Strategies
SMARTS stands for Smart – Mindful - Applicable – Reason-based – Tactics – Strategies
Expanding upon these
characteristics.
Dehumanize - Most
likely the biggest differentiator. Many self-defense systems are predicated on
you dehumanizing the other person as the Bad Guy. The Bad Guy is a criminal. He
is evil. He has no past. He has no future. He exists to do bad things to good
people. He lies. He cheats. He steals. He robs. He rapes. He kills. He does all
these things because he is the epitome of evil. His motivation for violence is
unknowable. He is a stranger that appears out of the shadows. The only way to
deal with such an inhuman monster is to injure or kill him as quick as
possible. His death makes the world a better place.
Dehumanizing the “attacker”
simplifies the situation to one where there are no consequences, no negative
side effects for your defensive actions. The Bag Guy intends to violently
attack you. Therefore, your use of violence is required and morally justified.
There is no need to consider the legal and ethical ramifications of your
actions. He is bad and you’re a good. Case closed.
Universal – The techniques and skills you learn
work for everybody on everyone. No matter what your particular size, strength,
athletic ability is, you will be able to successful apply the instructed
techniques. And these same techniques are universally effective against all Bad
Guys regardless of their gender, size, strength, and athletic ability.
The universal concept is also a form of dehumanization. You are not viewed as an individual with behaviors and characteristics that influence your personal safety. You are just another potential victim of a Bad Guy. Everyone is made equally safe by the application of the instructed techniques.
Many times Universal systems can be identified by the uniform appearance and attitude of the practitioners. They all receive the same instruction regardless of their individuality.
The universal concept is also a form of dehumanization. You are not viewed as an individual with behaviors and characteristics that influence your personal safety. You are just another potential victim of a Bad Guy. Everyone is made equally safe by the application of the instructed techniques.
Many times Universal systems can be identified by the uniform appearance and attitude of the practitioners. They all receive the same instruction regardless of their individuality.
Mindless - This
concept is an extension of dehumanization. In this case, you are dehumanized as
nothing more than a “body” that needs to imprint certain movements in order to
defend itself. You don’t need good judgment and critical thinking abilities.
There will be no time to think. Remember, the dehumanized stranger will be
jumping out of the bushes. You just need to respond automatically with your
trained movements. Regardless of your emotional state, your training will kick
in and your evil attacker will be defeated. Constant repetition or the use of
“stress training” will burn the movements into your nervous system for instant
availability when needed.
Body-Based – Mindless
systems depend upon mostly body based movements as opposed to learning
effective strategies and having both in depth knowledge and good judgment.
Self-defense as seen as a collection of physical techniques. Many times these
techniques are described as “brutally effective”. They will allow you to stop
any attacker in any situation. These techniques and skills are claimed to have
been developed scientifically, or during World War II hand-to-hand combat, or
by the military’s special operations units, or through thousands of years of
refinement, or by some other secret method. These techniques will allow you (Universal)
to (Mindlessly) devastate your (Dehumanized) attacker and incapacitate him from
his evil plan of rape, mayhem and murder.
Promoters of Body-based systems are
mainly focused on their strength, speed, power, skill, brutality and
ruthlessness.
Simplistic – The
overriding assumption is that the situations in which you will need
self-defense are always clear cut. There are no gray areas. No fog of war. No
chance of confusion or mis-identification. You will be minding your own
business when either threatened or viciously attacked by the dehumanized Bad
Guy(s). You will have no participation in creating the violence. You will be easily
able to identify the assailant due to his evil appearance, creepiness, and/or
threatening actions.
Also assumed is that you will be
mentally and physically ready and willing to respond to the threat. Simplistic
systems don’t take into consideration such factors as submissive social
conditioning, fear of making the situation worse, physiological changes from
adrenaline, weakened physical states, disability, distractedness, your relation
to the aggressor, your role the interaction, and the legal and ethical
consequences of your actions. All these factors are excluded from Simplistic
systems.
Simplistic systems are closed to adaption and expansion. They don’t evolve to deal with multiple environments and multifaceted situations.
Simplistic systems are closed to adaption and expansion. They don’t evolve to deal with multiple environments and multifaceted situations.
Make no mistake. There is a place
for DUMBS. Evil does exist. There are people who behave like inhuman monsters.
But as a statistical matter, most people are unlikely to run into such a person
in their life time in civilized societies. And if they do, old style yelling and running away is a viable option.
DUMBS systems rely upon your fear
of the stereotypical dehumanized Bad Guy as their marketing ploy. They pander
to your fears. They play upon the images planted in your mind through countless
news stories of evil perpetrators and innocent victims, of Hollywood villains,
and the self-defense product industry such as firearm, pepper spray, and other
personal safety product manufacturers and retailers. They use inflated
statistics promoted by agenda driven grant seeking anti-rape/anti-violence organizations.
They exploit your fear of crime as decried by hardline politicians and the law
enforcement/prison industry.
For some people, the unfortunate
side-effect of DUMBS training is increased fear of being victimized by crime.
Rather than providing peace of mind. Many DUMBS trainees are left feeling that
the world is a hostile and dangerous place as a whole. That people are just
attacked without reason. That they need to live in a constant state of
vigilance in order to spot the Bad Guy before he launches his attack.
For other people, their belief that
brutally effective fighting techniques have been implanted into them provides
them with a false sense of security. Their understanding of self-defense and
violence is tiny domain, but they extrapolate it to the entire universe. These
people are more likely to be victimized in a manner they have never envisioned.
SMARTS personal safety systems on
the other hand take the opposite approach.
Smart – This word stands for using your brain foremost. It means using your innate intelligence to make critical decisions that combine good judgment and experience. It means learning about the root causes of violence as opposed to accepting “sound bites” and common knowledge. It means studying criminal behavior and human behavior.
Smart – This word stands for using your brain foremost. It means using your innate intelligence to make critical decisions that combine good judgment and experience. It means learning about the root causes of violence as opposed to accepting “sound bites” and common knowledge. It means studying criminal behavior and human behavior.
Smarts is about your ability to
process information in a useful manner. It is about using your mind before your
apply your body to solve problems and resolve potentially violent situations. It
is about recognizing tells, signs, indicators, and pre-cursors to violence in
order to preempt it.
Unlike those systems that
dehumanize aggressors, it is your understanding of people and your ability to
evaluate their potential behaviors and actions that is the key to your safety.
Mindful – Being mindful means that you are aware of both
yourself and your environment. Mindful is not a state of hyper-alertness or
anxiety. It doesn’t mean you look under your car for a rapist before unlocking
the car door. It means that you are aware of what is happening around you. You
use all your senses (including your sixth sense) to process input from the
world.
You are knowledgeable of your own conscious
and unconscious attitudes and behaviors. You are cognizant of how your behavior
has an effect on those around you. You are in tune with yourself and others,
and as a result you are less likely to be caught by surprise by their actions.
You are able to differentiate between those that are trustworthy and those that
should be regarded with suspicion.
Applicable – What you learn must be applicable to you. That means
that you are seen as an individual with specific strengths and weaknesses that
must be taken into consideration. It is not a question of what works best for
most people. But what works best for you in whatever situation you would most
likely find yourself in.
Whatever you learn must be
applicable to your actual life. You must be able to see the connection between
the knowledge and skills you learn and your life. If the focus is on
“unthinkable” events, then you will not think about them. As a result, those
skills will vanish as quickly as they arrived.
Personal safety is a constant process not a singular event. Your body is constantly fighting off infection and invasive threats from bacteria and viruses. It is an ongoing process. But there are certain times, such as visiting a hospital or upon receiving a cut, that you give this process extra attention and take additional precautionary measures.
Personal safety is a constant process not a singular event. Your body is constantly fighting off infection and invasive threats from bacteria and viruses. It is an ongoing process. But there are certain times, such as visiting a hospital or upon receiving a cut, that you give this process extra attention and take additional precautionary measures.
If you can’t apply and relate what
you are learning to your own life, you will not really learn it.
Realism – Realism is not reality T.V. Realism focuses on what actually is the case as opposed to what people believe or want to be true. Most people
do things for a reason. The idea of acts of violence are random and senseless denies this truth. Unlike popular misconception, most violence does
not result from the stranger that emerges from the bushes. Most violence occurs
between people who have some type of social based relationship. The violence
emerges from this interaction. Studying Violence
Dynamics and criminal behavior takes these factors into consideration.
Predatory violence is also reason
driven. The predator has his reason for assaulting his victim. It could be to
gain or protect a resource. It could be for the enjoyment of the assault
itself.
Understanding the reason or
rational that someone would want to use violence against you provides the key
to predicting behaviors and creating a response that has a higher likelihood of
being an effective deterrent or that may make him or her stop his actions. Realism also takes into consideration a person's true strengths and weaknesses. Realism allows a person to make accurate assessments based on his or her true capabilities as opposed to false confidence in one's ability to handle dangerous situations.
Tactics – Unlike simple
techniques, tactics are more complex. A technique is a series or sequence of
steps that you execute. A tactic on the other hand is an executable methodology
designed to achieve a certain task or objective. Tactics can be thought of as strategic
techniques. Effective tactics utilize concepts and principles to accomplish
their goal.
A particular type of strike is a
technique. Using a strike as a means to stun someone is a tactic. Using tactics
provides greater variety in how the task is achieved. Techniques are focused
more on the execution of action itself rather than the result.
Strategy – A strategy
can be a combination of techniques and tactics used to complete a planned goal.
Strategies begin with a plan and end with the execution of that plan. A
strategy takes into consideration multiple factors and variables in order to
obtain the goal. There are natural strategies such as running away, or trained
strategies as certain fighting methods and/ or postures. A complex strategy
takes into consideration the failure of certain elements of the strategy and
has a built in backup plan.
Strategies can be simple and not be simplistic. They can be complex without being complicated. Strategies use tactics to achieve their goals. For example, attacking the attacker is a strategy designed to put the attacker on the defensive. Using a flurry of strikes is a tactic that executes that strategy. An open handed strike is a technique than may or may not be part of the flurry tactic.
Strategies can be simple and not be simplistic. They can be complex without being complicated. Strategies use tactics to achieve their goals. For example, attacking the attacker is a strategy designed to put the attacker on the defensive. Using a flurry of strikes is a tactic that executes that strategy. An open handed strike is a technique than may or may not be part of the flurry tactic.
SMARTS personal safety training can
be just as brutally effective as DUMBS claim to be. SMARTS recognizes that some
attackers will dehumanize you and you may need to dehumanize them in response.
SMARTS can also utilize instantaneous reactions and trained responses without
conscious thought. But SMARTS takes into consideration that most of self-defense
does require conscious thought. There is more thinking than not thinking.
SMARTS can also use simple movement. SMARTS training encompasses a much wider variety of environments and situations than DUMBS systems. As such, the motto of SMARTS training is that “Violence is complicated”. And because violence is complicated, resolving violence takes more than just learning a DUMBS system.
SMARTS can also use simple movement. SMARTS training encompasses a much wider variety of environments and situations than DUMBS systems. As such, the motto of SMARTS training is that “Violence is complicated”. And because violence is complicated, resolving violence takes more than just learning a DUMBS system.
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